Wise steps with the black cat and I understand leaving the beds etc in place. Take time. We had an old dog cremated, and he lived on the coffee table in his tin for over a year until we had a spot to bury him because I couldnât stand the thought of him being alone in a cupboard. Big hugs
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melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Been unable to sleep and have been washing all the laundry and blankets. Gathering Melbcatâs meds and belongings into her carrier to more easily clean but Iâll be leaving her litterboxes, beds and bowl where they are. I donât want to look at the empty spaces.
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Iâm hoping to get the black cat back to an owner or at least some clarity on next steps to take. I looked fruitlessly on Facebook (without an account) for black cats missing in my area, made a dedicated gmail to put on a paper collar, then made a quick Found poster with that on there. After that who knows.
I guess Iâm just numbing out and focusing on the things I can fix because I have no idea how to even process this. I miss my baby girl.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
RustyRaven@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
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You might feel like you donât know how to process what has happened, but what you are doing is processing it. Busy work is a way to distract your conscious mind and give your subconscious the room to process - your conscious thoughts might grab all the attention, but it is the subconscious that does all the real heavy lifting.
The grief of loss is extremely painful to go through, but Melbcat loved you and was loved in return. Death cannot take that away, and moving from present to past does not diminish it. The time you had together and the relationship you had will always be there, you are just viewing it from a different angle.
Eagle@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
All this â€ïž