Oh thats tough⌠Mouth pain is hard enough, let alone with her complexity around food already.
Comment on Discussion Thread đ˘ Monday 23 February 2026
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨22⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Depressing medical stuff
Keeping it short.
Olâ girl had some teeth pulled a week ago, I said it was a bad idea. Only eating glucose really. Refuses soup, fuck all water, no exercise, cracks it at everything, down 4kg. It took months to to slow that weight loss, and then the same again to get it back up.
Everything Iâve tried to do over the last year has just evaporated in a week.
I have no idea how the olâ boy is expecting to do this japan trip theyâre planning in like 20 daysâ time.
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Eagle@aussie.zone â¨22⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨22⊠â¨hours⊠ago
so many hugs
what is her favourite food? even cakes are good food, they have eggs and butter and flour , try cakes , not kidding
I used to make giant apple crumbles and huge fruit bread loaves ( made with eggs ) for a friends elderly parents, it was easy to eat, healthy and very appetising
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
what is her favourite food?
Yea thatâs the problem. I keep on trying different things (soft diet / puree only) but itâs always hit and miss.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Iâm assuming youâve tried steamed eggs? Sauce on top can be anything she likes. Even a sweet sauce. Congee was a lifesaver for me when I had most of my teeth pulled out a couple of years ago - didnât need chewing. Can be made sweet or savoury.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Iâm not sure if sheâll try it but cheese soufflĂŠ is quite soft and isnât too bad to make if you donât fuss about getting the height.
Basically itâs cheese sauce and yolks(?) folded into stiff beaten egg white and baked with the container sitting in a pan of water. It ends up like a soft moist pudding.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨22⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Oof. I had one tooth pulled and while the pain was manageable it gave me the worst headache and made me hesitant to eat in case I would disturb the site and cause dry socket. Straws were forbidden.
NG tube is an option or even parenteral nutrition but I know it will be refused. I have a quick no temper stovetop custard using real eggs but she doesnât sound like a fan of sweets.
I donât know how youâre going to get through to olâ boy but Iâm hoping she manages okay. I really am. I donât envy the position youâre in, all the responsibilities but no say. If things go sideways it wonât be your fault.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Yea Iâm pushing for NG or even just IV for hydration but I just canât move these decisions.
youâve been really helpful with all this melba and canât thank you enough, sincerely.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
No worries, I know how hard both nutrition and carer duties can be
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨21⊠â¨hours⊠ago
maybe he just isnât saying anything
trying to keep it positive for her ( and himself )
in fact, is she looking forward to it? That might be an incentive for her to behave better
I donât believe as a doctor he doesnât see what is happening
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
Yep thatâs exactly right. He is trying to stay positive and he knows whatâs happening so giving him that.
Sheâs not looking forward to it. I was just hoping to get her more confident (w/ walking, eating etc.) but this is a big spanner and Iâm out of things to do in that amount of time.
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone â¨22⊠â¨hours⊠ago
That trip sounds like such a bad idea. How long has it been booked for? Is it sheer stubbornness or does he truly not see the state sheâs in? Does she want to go on the trip? Lots of questions, none of which you need to actually answer, btw! Thatâs rough as.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨20⊠â¨hours⊠ago
It is a bad idea. Been booked for a year. I was hoping to use it as an excuse to get her in better shape but the punches keep coming. He sees her state and weâve locked horns far too many times how to best go about it but I just have no say. She is very worried about the trip.
I honestly donât know what to do from here :(