I feel really bad every time I have to reject a man, and wow, they really learned to have a way with words.
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LwL@lemmy.world 3 days agoI get it though, even if only 1% of men react violently to direct rejection, it makes sense to be careful. Not a lottery you want to play.
So much of dating dynamic feels like it’s just been ruined by a few assholes, and the internet giving those assholes more reach only exacerbates it.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 days ago
Cruxifux@feddit.nl 3 days ago
I don’t think its just a few assholes. Men react badly to rejection REGULARLY, to the point that every woman I know has been threatened or screamed at by men they have rejected kindly. I’ve even witnessed it happen on several occasions with strangers and to my friends and have had to step in. And not just a few times, like I can think of ten times at least where I’ve had to involve myself when seeing something like that happen.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Hell, even in healthy relationships. I noticed my husbands mental health was getting rough, so I tried to bring it up. He got so defensive so fast, tried to flip it on me when he got panicky.
We talked that incident out, but people seem to generally just get defensive about sensitive things all the time, like reflexively. Unless you’ve done extensive inner work, it’s how it goes. How many avoidants walk this earth christ
Cruxifux@feddit.nl 3 days ago
Yes my wife does similar things to me when I do that with her. I can also think back to times where I’ve been overly defensive about things I’m insecure about. But none of those were related to women wanting to be with me.
LwL@lemmy.world 3 days ago
With the amount of random attention from men women get, the rate doesn’t have to be very high for it to be regular, particularly when you add selection bias that people who react like that are probably more likely to approach someone in the first place.
And while I would agree it’s probably higher than 1%, 1% really sounds lower than it is - that would be 40 million people globally.