Comment on Anon looks back

• blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I mean, we can imagine a counterfactual where the girl was even more insistant.

  “No, anon, you’re taking me on a date! I won’t take no for an answer”

  And then they go on a date. Anon is very awkward and has no idea what to do. But at the end of the date, she gives him a bj. Now what?

  Well from her perspective, maybe, she did a good deed. She gave him some experience and confidence and set him on his way - hooray!

  But from anon’s perspective - being anon - he is in the same position, only worse. After all, for some reason he can’t possibly understand, a girl went on a date with him and blew him, practically handed herself to him on a silver platter, and yet he still managed to fuck it up and didn’t lose his virginity. What a hopeless loser he is (he thinks to himself) - even if he is just given the perfect chance, he must be so repulsive and terrible at sex that no woman will want to touch him once they get close enough.

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  • CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    👌

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• tanisnikana@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I mean, I’m a 40-year-old virgin, but being asexual and sex-repulsed means I’m not desperate and needy.

  However, the asexuality sadly disqualifies me for the wizard powers.

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  • CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Sure, I’m dragging a wide net.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    how can you feel bad about not having sex if you don’t want to have sex?

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    • tanisnikana@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      The world puts an unbelievable amount of emphasis on having sex as a mandatory aspiration. Most advertising is coded for either sex or hunger or fear. Most people are sexual people who frame things sexually, even subtly. Douglas Adams even once wrote that the basis of literally every construction and technology and artistic work on the planet was to impress someone of the opposite sex.

      Needless to say, it’s hard to keep from internalizing some of this in some way. If you’d look at r/asexuality and the Lemmy asexual communities, you’d see a lot of people realizing “oh shit, I’m not broken!” after spending whole-ass years thinking they were.

      There is still a small voice inside me that says I’m an idiot for not chasing sex. I can’t help it. Society is pervasive.

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