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Comment on Discussion Thread 🥞 Friday 26 December 2025

LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

It kind of blows my mind how people meet partners on dating apps. What do you mean you go from complete strangers, to judging each other from photos and prompts, to lovers?

People in my life keep telling me to download the apps, giving me the line, “They’re good for neurodivergent people like you.”

AhhHhhhhHhhhhh! Excuse me?!

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Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Fuck the apps. Admittedly that’s from a male perspective. Real life works best for me because I don’t waste my time with people that don’t have the right vibe.

Plus, the apps thing is so impersonal. Half the fun of meeting someone is that first convo in person. Sometimes it’s easier to get a clear picture of someone when they don’t have unlimited time to formulate a response lol

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SaneMartigan@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I’ve known my new gf of a few months for 27 years. All of my exs I was friends with to some extent before we had a go at it.

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- LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Wow, how did that happen?
  
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  - SaneMartigan@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    The new gf, bumped into each other at a wake, drank, cuddled.
    
    The exs, we liked the same stuff and had been hanging out doing that stuff for a while so had plenty of time to get to know each other without the “dating” hurdles.
    
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    LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Cool! The meeting at a wake part though, but it had to happen somehow
    
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Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
“So what did youse guys do?”

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melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Blehhh. From what I can see there’s lots of flaky and even bad behaviour on the apps. Especially with the expectation for a fast pace which could lead to dating, sleeping with or trusting someone you don’t know very well.

The people in your life think they want something good for you and may even pressure you and set you up to try and get you squared away, but consider for yourself whether it’s something you want or are ready for at this point. Whether that’s something that feels good for you.

There’s this rush to try and find a partner in your twenties and it can be lonely or even subtly exclusionary of you if you’re not dating. The covert icing out and social pressure on single women to partner up is real.

But you may not know yourself or have a stable base yet. And there’s a lot of turds out there that can really derail your progress in life. Maybe this time might be something you prefer to invest in yourself. Just my 2 cents.

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- LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  yes! thank you! I think they meant it in the sense that online communication can be easier for ND folk, but you eventually have to meet in person and also what you said about not being able to see red flags. I was definitely in that spot talking to people online as a youngin and that wasn’t even through dating apps!
  
  society is excellent at putting this pressure, especially coming from a family being one of the younger cousins, with all the others having felt that “pressure” to “find someone”. I think people comment about things like this because they were once insecure about it!
  
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