I was over here thinking what if somebody didn’t even know that was what she was doing or that they were supposed to say thank you. Now that poor person will be left wondering what even happened because her resolution (picking it up and putting it back) provides no opportunity to learn.
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DaedalousIlios@pawb.social 4 days ago
I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it’s barely above a whisper.
To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn’t support this.
sneaky@r.nf 4 days ago
deHaga@feddit.uk 4 days ago
I’m autistic, rules are rules. The divider provider must be acknowledged.
Voice is improved with practice. Join a toastmasters,or learn to sing?
DaedalousIlios@pawb.social 4 days ago
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply? It’s a two-way street.
And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn’t happen.
People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.
rautapekoni@sopuli.xyz 4 days ago
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply?
I always put the divider down behind my stuff, line behind me or no, and expect nothing in return from the people behind me. If the person in front of me can’t be arsed to put the divider down after theirs stuff, it’s fun to see how many of my iitems get scanned before they get to have the awkward conversation with the cashier. Yes I’m normal and well adjusted, why do you ask?
deHaga@feddit.uk 4 days ago
And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
Yes, that’s why you have to practice. I got over mine by working in a hifi shop when I was 16. You have to speak to people, practice makes you better
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago
That’s one of those things where the only way out is through.
stray@pawb.social 3 days ago
I agree that we should all work on ourselves to the best of our ability, but I think the point myself and others are sticking on is the idea that this person deserves to be punished with revenge rudeness if they fail to perform politeness a specific way.
arnitbier@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
I did something great, you must now do it or you are less then me
Fuck off man
And I’d tell you in person passionately
ohulancutash@feddit.uk 4 days ago
Or people could try not being so prissy and obsessed with victorian “values”.
webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 4 days ago
Also autistic : *The rules are a construct we ourself shape and create in order to archive the illusion of control over the raw anarchy that is the reality of free will and sovereign thought *
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 days ago
Free will? Sovereign thought? Scientificaly disproven.
deHaga@feddit.uk 3 days ago
It’s just polite, I wasn’t being entirely serious
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today 4 days ago
You can be a victim or a victor, you made your choice…needlessly.
You can Literally order groceries to be picked up w no human interaction or go to self check out.
stray@pawb.social 3 days ago
I don’t think “cease interacting with humans” is the best advice.
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today 3 days ago
We live in a society in which that’s the preference of most people shopping today. Thus I dont think your advice is the best advice.
Also, If you’re gonna (needlessly) waste everyones time gonna with a meltdown by causeing a scene, then you are being as selfish as someone driving slow in the fast lane.
stray@pawb.social 3 days ago
Not saying thank you isn’t having a meltdown or making a scene, nor is it analogous to unsafe driving practices. Are you thinking this up just because they said they’re autistic?
My advice is only to not be passive-aggressive when people don’t behave the way you think they should, which is pretty low-effort.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 days ago
Cruelty usually is the point. It’s why I think humans should part ways from each other, end this civilizational bullshit.
SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago
I can’t fault you. At least we should organize into groups of 150 or less, the theorized maximum number of people that your average hairless ape can comprehend compassionately.
I propose a cell-based or council-network system that uses directly overlapping membership via 25 member subgroups, with each person a member of two groups. It maximizes empathic reach as members would better empathize with members of their two groups while increasing the likelihood members would empathize with members of a different group through the connection of another group member.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 days ago
Sadly, some Anticrist wannabies run the world. Ask them.