Comment on Anon gets his life in order
etherphon@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
“I only care about myself when someone else cares about me” is not particularly healthy.
It can be an unimaginably, uncomprehendingly better than just the ‘I don’t care about myself tho’, if that is the best they can manage or perhaps even as a step on the gradual path of self-worth/healing - that is amazing!
Don’t dismiss ‘getting slightly better’ as a failure bcs it’s not immediately resulting in the prefect best-case end scenario/state.
Sure, I’ve been there, I’m still there some days, it’s a lot of hard work to push yourself and find your redeeming qualities when you feel like you don’t have any, or keep trying when you feel like you fail every time, or feel like you sabotage yourself every time you get something going right. If that’s a step it’s great I’m just saying, don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
“i want to improve more for others than for myself” isn’t fantastic, but it’s pointing in the right direction
etherphon@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
Well that does sound better, as long as it’s not completely dependent on another persons approval, that’s kinda asking for trouble.
insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
More in the right direction than the wrong but still not the right direction entirely. It needs to come from within to be strong and lasting.
Plus that isn’t what’s happening here, he’s being a child who is also being emotionally and sexually manipulated.