Comment on CNC

• ricecake@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It’s more blunt, but people who have been raped would point out that there’s a big difference between the sexual nature of consensual non consent, and the objectively violent nature of rape.

  It’s less that it’s less honest than that it’s more clear about what it is, and what it isn’t. It’s about what people think rape is about, and not what it actually is: angry, hateful and violent.

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  • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Well I needed someone to explain consentual non consent to me because its not really logical, and I didnt need rape play explained to me, so there’s that. Seems sort of silly we needed a politically correct term for it in the first place.

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    • blackris@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Seems to me, it is more an accurate term. „Politically correct“ is still signage of „I am a right-wing asshole“ btw. Even when those assholes switch terms regulary.

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      • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        How is it more accurate?

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    • ricecake@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You do know that no one made them switch terms right? The people doing it and using the term decided to change it because it made it more clear when they were talking to each other.
      Since you hadn’t encountered the idea before, I don’t think they’re super concerned about their sex lives being easy to explain to you. Your opinion isn’t super relevant to other people’s sexual preferences or the words they use to talk about it to each other.

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      • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Well, its as relevant as anyone else’s opinion here, which is like you said not much. Good talk though.

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  • Petter1@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    But consensual non consent as well as rape can be soft

    Eg free use -> CNC

    Or use of power, like financial dependency -> rape

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    • ricecake@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      That’s fair, and a good example on the first one.

      I don’t really care to quibble on the details too much, but I believe a lot of definitions would distinguish the coercive from the forcible.

      In either case, it speaks to the cnc phrase being more apt than otherwise.

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• bitjunkie@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It got ruined by anti-edgelord zoomers who put shit like “seggs” in their TikTok captions to prevent demonetization.

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