I think all emotions are valid, but itâs what you do with them that matters. E.g. feeling jealous or angry, people shame others for it. What they should be shaming is the behaviour that comes in response to those emotions. Iâm a big fan of responding over reacting.
Itâs also important to remember that just because you feel a certain way, doesnât mean everything is that way. I constantly feel like Iâm doomed. Or in social situations, if I feel awkward, I must be awkward and unlikeable. But then I remember I have a roof over my head, food to eat, a beautiful dog sleeping somewhere in the next room. I have had some successful social interactions and made some good connections. That doesnât invalidate the shitty feelings, but it helps to put things in perspective for me.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨12⊠â¨hours⊠ago
sadly they can learn negative talk in infancy
Infants that are not nurtured, whose emotional health is neglected donât learn emotional regulation and they learn that people arenât to be trusted, not even mothers.