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Comment on Discussion Thread 🌬 Thursday, October 23, 2025

For me that self talk was introjects, me repeating what I had been taught or bullied into thinking and doing.

and yes on the brain bs, emotion especially. All that talk you hear about , your emotions are valid and real, that’s bs. That’s what abusers want us to to react to. We need to listen to good sense.

The truly hard part is realising the origin of the negative self talk comes from other people, people we trusted and who we thought had our best interest at heart.

Think about what people say to you, does it make you feel stronger, does it make you happy.

I’m older now and still fighting bs in my head every single day.

But I am totes winning. I have the Seagoons now who I trust . I have some more wisdom too.

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LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I think all emotions are valid, but it’s what you do with them that matters. E.g. feeling jealous or angry, people shame others for it. What they should be shaming is the behaviour that comes in response to those emotions. I’m a big fan of responding over reacting.

It’s also important to remember that just because you feel a certain way, doesn’t mean everything is that way. I constantly feel like I’m doomed. Or in social situations, if I feel awkward, I must be awkward and unlikeable. But then I remember I have a roof over my head, food to eat, a beautiful dog sleeping somewhere in the next room. I have had some successful social interactions and made some good connections. That doesn’t invalidate the shitty feelings, but it helps to put things in perspective for me.

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- Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  
  young kids don’t really have any of that at first,
  
  sadly they can learn negative talk in infancy
  
  Infants that are not nurtured, whose emotional health is neglected don’t learn emotional regulation and they learn that people aren’t to be trusted, not even mothers.
  
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- Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  No. Not all emotions are valid. Many are stupid and useless. I say this as someone who had severe crippling PTSD, emotions can suck, they can be based on insane ideas in your head , they can be destructive.
  
  Note your emotions, question your emotions. Even good emotions.
  
  Are your emotions coming from your true self, are they informing you?
  
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  - RustyRaven@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I believe the “your emotions are valid” idea has some merit, but only in the context of not being critical of yourself for feeling them. Accepting that you are feeling something can be an important part in the process of then stepping back and questioning why you are feeling it and whether it is appropriate for the situation you are in.
    
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    LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Yep, this is exactly what I meant. Thanks for articulating it so well.
    
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