Comment on Discussion Thread đŹ Thursday, October 23, 2025
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠agoI spent many years of my life not doing things that could benefit me because of all the self-talk. Everything feels too hard or pointless or overwhelming or I wonât enjoy it. I donât know about your situation, but itâs tricky to recognise that sometimes your brain can be bullshitting you. Put on a five minute timer and start with something that can be done from where you are now! Like Zen Colour or something. I personally like doing the wordle.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
For me that self talk was introjects, me repeating what I had been taught or bullied into thinking and doing.
and yes on the brain bs, emotion especially. All that talk you hear about , your emotions are valid and real, thatâs bs. Thatâs what abusers want us to to react to. We need to listen to good sense.
The truly hard part is realising the origin of the negative self talk comes from other people, people we trusted and who we thought had our best interest at heart.
Think about what people say to you, does it make you feel stronger, does it make you happy.
Iâm older now and still fighting bs in my head every single day.
But I am totes winning. I have the Seagoons now who I trust . I have some more wisdom too.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I think all emotions are valid, but itâs what you do with them that matters. E.g. feeling jealous or angry, people shame others for it. What they should be shaming is the behaviour that comes in response to those emotions. Iâm a big fan of responding over reacting.
Itâs also important to remember that just because you feel a certain way, doesnât mean everything is that way. I constantly feel like Iâm doomed. Or in social situations, if I feel awkward, I must be awkward and unlikeable. But then I remember I have a roof over my head, food to eat, a beautiful dog sleeping somewhere in the next room. I have had some successful social interactions and made some good connections. That doesnât invalidate the shitty feelings, but it helps to put things in perspective for me.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
sadly they can learn negative talk in infancy
Infants that are not nurtured, whose emotional health is neglected donât learn emotional regulation and they learn that people arenât to be trusted, not even mothers.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
No. Not all emotions are valid. Many are stupid and useless. I say this as someone who had severe crippling PTSD, emotions can suck, they can be based on insane ideas in your head , they can be destructive.
Note your emotions, question your emotions. Even good emotions.
Are your emotions coming from your true self, are they informing you?
RustyRaven@aussie.zone â¨2⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I believe the âyour emotions are validâ idea has some merit, but only in the context of not being critical of yourself for feeling them. Accepting that you are feeling something can be an important part in the process of then stepping back and questioning why you are feeling it and whether it is appropriate for the situation you are in.