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troed@fedia.io 1 month agoYou need to practice making comparisons. No, that's nowhere near the same thing.
Here's a better one: -"Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you"
Yeah, no.
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troed@fedia.io 1 month agoYou need to practice making comparisons. No, that's nowhere near the same thing.
Here's a better one: -"Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you"
Yeah, no.
blarghly@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s reasonable advice, if you are sure that not wearing short skirts results in less cat-calling. The societal solution is to discourage cat-calling in whatever way. But if a particular individual doesn’t want to be cat called more than they want to wear short skirts, then the solution is obvious.
This is similar advice to “if someone is trying to mug you, just give them your wallet so you don’t get stabbed.” Certainly there should be a larger discussion about decreasing the amount of muggings - but for the particular individual in a particular circumstance, they should take the action that is in their immediate self interest.
troed@fedia.io 1 month ago
No, it's not. Please tell me you're not a parent.
CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
So lets hear your solution to the problem if you feel your idealist approach is the most effective way to deal with this.
Let me guess, you’ll suggest going to the police who won’t actually do anything or pay thousands of dollars to hire a lawyer who may or may not be able to accomplish something after months of time and a bunch of court hearings. Maybe even loudly announcing to this mentality ill individual that their behavior is wrong forcing them to back down as everyone around claps for OP? Yeah I’m not so sure that’s how things work in the real world.
Nobody is blaming the victim here but we don’t live in a fairytale world where good always triumphs over evil and justice is always served. You need to do what you can to protect yourself and we’re simply offering real solutions.
troed@fedia.io 1 month ago
Yeah, you go to the police and fheir hosting provider. At no point do you teach women that the right action when bullied is for them to take a step back and be quiet.