Comment on That's an impressive drop. Any ideas why?

lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• Ibaudia@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I’ve also never been in a relationship that totally satisfied my sex drive, so I feel this a lot. My fiance used to be very sexual like me, but then she went on antidepressants and that was kinda killed. Now, she’s off then again, but her sex drive never rebounded, even though she thinks I’m more attractive now that I’ve been working out and gained muscle. Just sad to be jerking off in the office or bathroom every day instead of being intimate with someone you love because they don’t want to have sex with you 🫤

  I don’t blame her or anything, it just hurts my soul a bit. Her sex drive is so low now that I feel guilty and anxious even asking, because I know she’ll either reject it outright or just tolerate it if she really wants to make me happy that day, which kills it for me.

  I’d say we only really have sex where we’re both equally enjoying it maybe once every few weeks to once a month. If her drive were the same as mine, that would be once or twice a day. Just a shitty situation for me.

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  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I don’t blame her or anything, it just hurts my soul a bit. Her sex drive is so low now that I feel guilty and anxious even asking, because I know she’ll either reject it outright or just tolerate it if she really wants to make me happy that day, which kills it for me.

    Yeah, I’m single now and intend to stay that way but I don’t blame my exes or hold it against women as a whole. It’s just a fact of life. It has bothered me enough to end relationships over it but it was just about the incompatibility not any malice towards them. I’d much rather just hang out as friends and not have that “is she going to be in the mood or not?” question running in my head the whole time or feeling shitty if I make a move and get shot down, or worry that they’re feeling like I’m trying to pressure them into something. It just creates a bad situation and stresses me out because it’s not like I can just turn it off. I’ve tried jacking off but my shit recovers too fast when I’m around a woman that I like for that to help.

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  • TheProtagonist@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Although I feel sorry for you and your situation, I honestly wonder, how someone can jerk off in the office…

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    • Ibaudia@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Home office!!!

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• outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Monogamist problems.

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