You wouldn’t believe how many progressive women only date stereotypically conservative men. Here is a metanalysis of five studies showing how women in general prefer men who espouse and act out “benevolent sexism.” This is the age old problem for men: women say they want one thing, but date something completely different.
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stringere@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
I wouldn’t consider a woman that drops a guy for this reason to be a progressive.
JasSmith@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
stringere@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Fortunately for me, in the dating arena, being honest about myself to a fault did a great job vetting dates all on its own.
nectar45@lemmy.zip 4 weeks ago
You would be suprised by how much of the left hates bisexuals, without realizing that makes them as bad as any other bigot
daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’ve had these conversations with people before. I was telling a fellow man how I don’t care if my partner is bi. He said something like “woah man, there can be some major trust issues there” implying that her “homosexual needs” will lead her to cheat on me with my sister or something. I didn’t follow his logic.
korazail@lemmy.myserv.one 3 weeks ago
I’m a straight male. My wife is bi. The most important part of her orientation, to me, is that it means everyone else was my competition for her love instead of just other men, but I still won.
daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That’s always how I looked at it.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
As if straight/gay people don’t cheat all the time because they’re apparently not getting their “needs” met. The person being shitty is the issue, not their sexuality.
daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Exactly.
frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Damn it, not all bi people are greedy horn dogs.
I mean, I am, but not all of us are.
Nangijala@feddit.dk 3 weeks ago
Some of the weirdest shit I have seen in the LGBT sphere is how comfortable some of them are with dictating who is allowed to date who and whether or not their preferences are okay.
It’s the main reason I don’t really vive with the LGBT community. Don’t mind gays and trans and whatever else is out there. Normal people living their normal lives and loving the people they love and finding ways to be comfortable in their own bodies is how things should be.
But the LGBT sometimes reminds me of organized religion. It’s not the individual believer who lives his or her life in peace who is the problem, but the weird cultlike behavior going on in the group where everybody has to hold the same opinions that tend to become progressively more extreme over time until the church controls every aspect of your life. Including whom your are allowed to love.
But it is difficult to bring this up without immediately being labeled a phob because the LGBT owns non-straight sexuality and if you criticism the movement, you criticize all the non straight people.
BLM has similar vibes.
I just don’t like groups. Churches, political groups, grassroots movements, you name it. It all ends up the same in the end. With group pressure, control, shaming and ostracizing when you don’t toe the line.
If I learned anything in my 20s, its that being a part of any ideological groups is not in your best interest. No matter how good and safe it feels in the beginning.
ipitco@lemmybefree.net 3 weeks ago
blahaj.zone basically
Turns into an authoritarian cult. You’re either completely with them or fully against them
Nangijala@feddit.dk 3 weeks ago
I don’t think they are the only ones on this platform, tbh xD I will say that I have run into some chill blåhaj people here and I have run into people who are affiliated with entirely different instances or what you call them that have displayed some of the most unhinged, unpleasant behavior I have experienced online. I was so close to just delete myself from this platform and forget about having any online social outlet after a series of interactions with particularly disgusting individuals on here. I can kind of see why they were banned off of reddit, ngl. I haven’t interacted enough with blåhaj people to say if they are as bad as that or not. Seems like a mixed bag to me.
The most pleasant people on here that I have met have mostly been my fellow Danes and all the Linux people. For whatever reason, the Linux fanatics just tend to be super welcoming and encouraging which statistically shouldn’t be the case. All lived experience tells me that groups that are obsessed with a specific topic/lifestyle are usually some of the worst people to be around. Doesn’t matter the subject. But somehow these nerds manage to be chill. 😆
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
You’re other with them or a tankie.
buttnugget@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I wouldn’t say “the left” but biphobia is absolutely insane among non traitor lunatics.
TipRing@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
biphobia is prevalent even among gays and lesbians. It sucks.
buttnugget@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Absolutely. My wife was bisexual and many lesbians wanted nothing to do with her.