There wasn’t. I never said every woman always has support. I only said that men struggle with vocalizing mental health needs among their friends.
If talking to your friends about trauma at the appropriate stage in your friendship is considered trauma dumping, I’m sorry to say that I’m afraid you don’t have close friends.
That, or you’re coddling and patronizing your friends for lacking the emotional maturity to handle deeper conversations.
True friendship comes from being comfortable with your vulnerabilities around your friends, and having each other’s backs. A support group isn’t a substitute because it’s premise is transactional in nature, where you are expected to talk about and listen to trauma without attachment.
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
My (presumably) man, get better friends. If I can make a friend of mine feel better by listening to him, why wouldn’t I? I may not know what to say, but I would try my best. The saddest (on an inter-personal level, not as in “the world is going to shit”) thing I experienced recently was a friend of mine basically disappearing because of mental health issues. I think I understand why he did that, comparing yourself to others sucks, but I wish I could help him more than the occasional “hey, how are you doing?” when we randomly meet somewhere.