Hell no. Fuck being controlled.
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frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml 3 days ago
When opportunity presents itself, say yes
reactionality@lemmy.sdf.org 3 days ago
FooBarrington@lemmy.world 3 days ago
This isn’t “being controlled”. Yes, the dad should have asked first, but it’s just a date for someone who seems to want to go on dates. That’s just being helpful in the wrong way.
reactionality@lemmy.sdf.org 3 days ago
It isn’t being controlled if you don’t go.
Otherwise you’re being a good little dog who does as he’s told.
neatchee@lemmy.world 3 days ago
This is a petulant way to approach life, and perfectly fits the idiom “throwing the baby out with the bath water”.
It is possible to set boundaries without being deliberately contrarian and resistant to any form of outside pressure.
IMO the best possible solution here is to refuse to speak further about it with their dad, but go on the date and have a great time hanging out with a random stranger for a little bit.
To put it more simply: if you’re hungry and I bring you sandwich and demand that you eat it, telling me “leave the sandwich, I’ll eat it if I want, but I’m not giving you the satisfaction of knowing or seeing me eat it because of how you approached me” is the smart move.
FooBarrington@lemmy.world 3 days ago
No, if you don’t go because someone set it up for you, you’re still letting yourself being controlled.
If you go because you want to go, you’re not being controlled.
testfactor@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Hey man, you should be happy and live your best life. Do things that make you happy with people you love.
Hahahaha, now if you do it, you’re just doing what I told you to do like a little lapdog. Stupid sheep.
shplane@lemmy.world 3 days ago
The dad literally said “no objections”. Sounds like he’s trying to control his child. Even if the kid can say no, the dad is still being an asshole.
FooBarrington@lemmy.world 3 days ago
You can’t tell that from one text exchange. Yes, it’s possible, but it’s also possible that they’re just trying to motivate their son to try something new.
It’s only being controlling if there’s a pattern and you acquiesce. We don’t know that’s the case.
saltesc@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Especially when the worst that could happen is nothing which is exactly what’s going to happen if OP says no. Literally can’t go backwards no matter what, but it’s possible they could go forward.
Well…unless something psycho happens, I guess. Then OP will bmsuffer greatly, go very backward, traumatised for life etc. etc. etc…