Comment on We too often minimize the sacrifices parents make for us

tacosanonymous@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• realitista@lemmus.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Unless they put you up for adoption or sent you to live with relatives, the fact that you are still alive disproves this point.

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  • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Doing the legally mandated minimum isn’t a sacrifice.

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    • realitista@lemmus.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Try being a parent and get back to me. There isn’t a parent in the world that doesn’t make sacrifices. Even bad ones do. There’s no way to raise a kid without time and money and loss of sleep. Even if you do a bad job.

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      • Ciderpunk@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I think you’re conflating the concept of an opportunity cost with a sacrifice. There is a lot of joy in parenting, and not getting to hang out with friends because you have to take care of your child isn’t a sacrifice, it’s the cost of having a child. Not every single thing you give up is a sacrifice.

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      • criss_cross@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I’ll engage honestly with this for a sec.

        Yes, parenting is hard work. I have kids myself. It’s not easy and can be rather thankless at times.

        I think what people are downvoting/getting upset with you about is that there’s a lot of parents who take the above and say “you owe me XYZ. Do you know how much I sacrificed for you !?!” My family did this to me. It’s heartbreaking when they pull this card and you’re just trying to get them to…well just not be shitty towards you and your family.

        You kinda opt-in to the thanklessness a bit. Which renders the “owing” argument moot.

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      • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I literally have two kids, one autistic.

        Doing the bare minimum isn’t a sacrifice. It’s an expectation.

        To me, a sacrifice is something you choose to do for someone else. Not the minimum you do to avoid prison for child endangerment.

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  • callouscomic@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Ah yes. Just like my parents say. They put a roof over my head, therefore I should shut the fuck up about all the abuse and other neglect.

    Please mom & dad quote that verse to me again about how the bad child should be fucking killed.

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    • realitista@lemmus.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Being a good parent and making sacrifices are not the same. It’s impossible to be a parent without making sacrifices. It’s possible to make said sacrifices and still be a bad parent.

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  • howsetheraven@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Oh really? Only those 2 things and nothing else? You lack critical thinking, empathy, imagination, and much more in between.

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    • realitista@lemmus.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Those are the only 2 ways I can imagine having a child and not making some sacrifices, yes. Your insults do nothing to further your point.

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