Comment on Discussion Thread 🧭 Friday 25 July 2025

• PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It seemed to go okay. She was asked lots of questions about how she learns and what she likes and doesn’t like and how she approaches certain problems. My daughter prattled along quite amiably 😆 There were no right or wrong answers, just getting to know you type things. We won’t find out whether she’s been accepted until later in the term. I’ve got my fingers and everything else that’s crossable, crossed.

  At the start she was asked if she prefers to be referred to as “she” or “he” (it’s a pretty tolerant school) and I learnt that she doesn’t identify as a girl, which was… interesting. For a while I’ve thought of her as being kind of “androgynous” (I guess that was a typical word used when I was younger to describe the kind of person she is) but I didn’t realise that she just doesn’t identify as female. She’s definitely not a “girly girl,” but then neither was I really. I didn’t really enjoy feminine dressing until I was in my late twenties maybe? 🤔 She doesn’t correct me when I call her a girl, so I didn’t really know how far her thinking/feeling went in that regard. I was not looking forward to the more physical aspects of her reaching puberty, but now I am absolutely dreading it. I’m trying to be accepting and progressive, but to me she is always my beautiful girl, clever and strong, a free spirit. I don’t really know how to feel or what to think. Sorry for the lengthy response, I’m just a bit confused and trying to process it all.

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  • SituationCake@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Heavy stuff. Perhaps now that she (they?) said her feelings to the school, she might be comfortable having a chat at home too? I can imagine it’s a tough situation to experience for both of you. I don’t really have much to offer as advice but we’re here for you. Hugs.

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