I think they were saying that “good relationship with dad” isn’t a prerequisite for “marrying a dad-alike,” that sometimes “bad relationship with dad” also gets “married to dad-alike,” they’re just both bad guys in the latter case.

Like, a woman who’s dad beat her/mom as a child can grow up to marry a husband who also beats her/their child too, and in that way she has married someone like her dad.

I don’t think they were claiming that being abusive is good, nor do I think that’s the general consensus on blahaj.