I think they were saying that “good relationship with dad” isn’t a prerequisite for “marrying a dad-alike,” that sometimes “bad relationship with dad” also gets “married to dad-alike,” they’re just both bad guys in the latter case.
Like, a woman who’s dad beat her/mom as a child can grow up to marry a husband who also beats her/their child too, and in that way she has married someone like her dad.
I don’t think they were claiming that being abusive is good, nor do I think that’s the general consensus on blahaj.
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
I think they were saying that “good relationship with dad” isn’t a prerequisite for “marrying a dad-alike,” that sometimes “bad relationship with dad” also gets “married to dad-alike,” they’re just both bad guys in the latter case.
Like, a woman who’s dad beat her/mom as a child can grow up to marry a husband who also beats her/their child too, and in that way she has married someone like her dad.
I don’t think they were claiming that being abusive is good, nor do I think that’s the general consensus on blahaj.
Samsy@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
Agreed. Maybe I didn’t think about all possible variants of my introductory statement.