Then there are the people who make their partners jealous and suspicious, even if they never were before. Have an ex like that, I remember her talking about her ex early on in our relationship and how he’d constantly think she was cheating, even to the point where he went and looked for her at the bars she’d normally be at when she’s out with friends. I thought that was fucking nuts, but just a few months later I understood him. I never did what he did, but it didn’t take long for me to feel no trust for her. Many times it almost felt like she consciously made it seem like she was cheating and then freaked out whenever I even hinted at how it looked to me and others. And even when we were out together she always found some guy who fell for her right there and then did all the things people do when they flirt, but denying that she does flirt and saying it’s all subconscious. As far as I’m aware she has never been caught cheating, but I’m absolutely certain she does. It’s been 5 years since we broke up and I still feel like my normal trust and view of people is damaged because of her. And they guy she got together with after me, less than a week, had the same experience as me. She broke him in the same way. I had never before fully regretted a relationship of any kind, no matter how short or long, but with her I do. She’s gorgeous and generally has a good personality and is easy to fall in love with, then she breaks you and moves on within a week after.
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echodot@feddit.uk 1 day agoHaving a jealous partner is absolutely awful. They only think they want this they absolutely don’t.
I had a friend who had a jealous boyfriend and he was convinced I was trying to sleep with her, at one point he tried to challenge me to a fight for her love or something. When I told him I wasn’t interested in her he got really mad and accused me of insulting his girlfriend. Unsurprisingly she ended up dumping him which frankly the entire friend group was relieved by.
These people are nutcases if they think they want that
M137@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 9 hours ago
This thread made me realize that I have never really been in a relationship before.
doomcanoe@sh.itjust.works 21 hours ago
I think there might be a bit of a wider spectrum of jealously than “not at all” and “I will fight you for even looking at my partner!”. A little jealously is normal, even in healthy relationships. We are all human after all.
Giving anon the benefit of the doubt, I would hazard a guess that they wanted a “healthy level of jealousy”, as a treat.
echodot@feddit.uk 14 hours ago
He was a weird one. He once made me play golf with him, and acted all smug and superior that apparently he was better at it than I was.
I mean it’s golf, who cares?