So your stance actually is that a woman in a dominatrix suit is always propogating heteronormativity… unless she’s wearing a strapon… while could be construed as being used for penetrating either a man or a woman or anyone else.
So in your mind, BDSM is heteronormative unless it explicity is made clear that it is not.
That would mean that in your mind, pegging is not heteronormative, even if it is going on between a heterosexual couple… even though a man being pegged very, very much goes against the general social view of how sex between a man and a woman works or should work.
… You have a very different understanding of what heteromormativity is and means than I do.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
So your stance actually is that a woman in a dominatrix suit is always propogating heteronormativity… unless she’s wearing a strapon… while could be construed as being used for penetrating either a man or a woman or anyone else.
So in your mind, BDSM is heteronormative unless it explicity is made clear that it is not.
That would mean that in your mind, pegging is not heteronormative, even if it is going on between a heterosexual couple… even though a man being pegged very, very much goes against the general social view of how sex between a man and a woman works or should work.
… You have a very different understanding of what heteromormativity is and means than I do.
JandroDelSol@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think the heteronormativity comes from the idea that men are always the ones both doing the penetrating and taking charge in the bedroom lol