Comment on Are dating apps really as bad as people say?
foggy@lemmy.world 3 days ago
The free tier will let you swipe x times per day.
Of the 10,000 matches in your area, 1000 might be real humans.
So, it ends up feeling like a waste of time for any guy that doesn’t get their profile pics taken by a professional. The odds of your iPhone pics standing out are slim unless you’re rocking a speedo packing a hog, ridiculously muscular, or apparently holding a fish? That can’t be working…
It ends up feeling like a waste of time.
The main problem is that some younger people don’t even know that dating apps weren’t always that ass. When tinder was new-ish you got unlimited likes and like 5 super likes a week or something. There were hardly any bots. Even with my lazily taken photos i would get a bunch of matches, meet someone, delete it, rinse and repeat.
When i use tinder now i get maybe 3 matches a month and at least two of them are bots.
I’m certain that tinder straight up doesn’t show your profile around if you are male presenting.
I have a female friend who also had tinder and we did a test. I set mine in men looking for women. I got her profile pretty soon, she never got my profile as an option.
E expected something like that too. There are also so many many many more men on tinder than women, so the odds are higher as well. I assume that’s also the reason why i (small town-ish) keep seeing the same people. Because they just run out. Sure some make new accounts, but i don’t think at that rate with exactly the same photos and bio.
whyrat@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
From my experience; that’s not what women are looking for. At least, not the ones I ended up matching & later talking about the dating app experience; but then I matched without any of those types of photos… so there’s selection bias in my sample. I did encounter a number of women mentioning the ubiquitous “fish pic” and though it was strange. I guess if you like fishing as a hobby that’s fine; but I don’t notice that many single men when I’m fishing. As a response I would send them a selfie holding up my kids’ “fish” bath toys and that always got a laugh :)