Comment on What are some good places/activities where a middle-aged man can new make friends?
Bonus@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Pursue your interests in life and people you’re going to hit it off with will be along the way.
Comment on What are some good places/activities where a middle-aged man can new make friends?
Bonus@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Pursue your interests in life and people you’re going to hit it off with will be along the way.
lordnikon@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yeah unfortunately most of my interests are stuff that are done solo. Im also not sure if those interests became my interests because i have been solo most of my life. Moved around allot as a kid. That’s why I want to bridge out to new things.
cRazi_man@europe.pub 1 day ago
I’m at a similar age and have similar interests. I’ve not been successful. I’ve done what others suggest, but not many people are making a genuine connection. Meetup.com ends up being an activity for the meet up and not connection outside. Conventions and gaming makes people get together for the event…but again little interest outside that.
Some of this might be a skill issue. Some of this has to do with how incredibly socially reserved the British are (all my ongoing friends are with non-British people while loving in England, because they’re the ones who will accept invites and meet up again). Some of this has to do with having interests that hardly anyone shares IRL.
Good luck.
lordnikon@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yeah i so get you dude. It’s funny you bring up being British. I’m half English and have the same problem when I go to cons. Like I went to the local Vintage Computer Festival South West. People were nice but just could never get anyone make the jump to genuine connection.
Being on crutches I think puts it on hard mode. As people ether consciously or unconsciously just don’t want to deal with disabled people. I feel that is less an issue in the UK but in the states most people are down right hostile sometimes to disabled people.
aislopmukbang@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Oh man I was the guy that said “Just go to cons” above but I see what you’re saying. Genuine connections take time.
One way I have really had some luck is just messaging friends I haven’t talked to in a while to check in on them. Most don’t reply but sometimes one does. One guy I messaged after not seeing him in 20 years and now we hang out every other week.
Maybe there is no winning strategy, just gotta be persistent.
cRazi_man@europe.pub 1 day ago
Shit dude, that sounds terrible with people giving you attitude for mobility aids.
I haven’t tried clubs (book club, warhammer, etc) and haven’t tried hobby classes.
I’ve had postgraduate formal classes, but that had mature students who had young families that they were keen to get back to (rather than hanging out).
aislopmukbang@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Go to cons my guy. Join the tournaments, stand in line. People are friendly just aim for a good conversation and be curious about people
SupaTuba@lemm.ee 1 day ago
Hey! you sound pretty cool! :D
Waldelfe@feddit.org 1 day ago
Maybe check if there are maker spaces/repair cafes near you. They are always happy for help.
Addv4@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Book club or maybe even some sort of 3d printing meetup? I’ve always found that the people that are interested in those probably would hit the other items on your list.