Comment on There's a noticable influx of trans kids in my job. Are there any topics I should avoid or considerations I should take into account when training them?

SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

• ayyy@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  What’s with the unwarranted condescension?

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  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    It’s not condescension. That’s quite literally the point. So many people just refuse to have some humility. This is literally the stance you take. You don’t have to be tough, you aren’t showing off to anybody. If that’s really a problem, then you need to reassess how you navigate the world. You genuinely do this to some trans kids, and they’ll love you and be more than willing to help you understand because basically nobody ever cares about them. You’d make their year. But don’t do it just to do it, actually embody this humility. It’ll be weird at first, but you might even make a friend.

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    • ayyy@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Would you be genuinely interested in my feedback about why literally everyone agrees with me that you have a combative tone, or would you just condescendingly dismiss that as well?

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      • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Hit me.

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• HiTekRedNek@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  There. Was that at hard?

  It’s apparently easier than you not being a jackass, at least.

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  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Edited. My intent is not to be a jackass, but to point out that SO many people use any excuse to not just bridge the gap and try to understand other people.

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• rbesfe@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  No one talks like this

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  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Do you mean no one talks like this in your industry or company? You could always be a vanguard and set the tone. Also you don’t have to say exactly that, word for word. My point is to just level with them, admit you don’t really know, and then to listen and try to understand their story a bit. Even the notion in dude-speak or whatever will be heard loud and clear and you’ll make their day, and everybody will be happier for it.

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• thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  No you’re making it sound like they’re going to be a problem right from the start and you’re willing to understand

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  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Is “they” op or the trans kid?

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    • thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Trans

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• Allero@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  I do not agree with an angry mob downvoting you, but I’ll notice this is probably not the context to put this in.

  This looks more like a parent figuring out about their kids being trans. In the OP’s context, everyone is on an even ground.

  Here, it is mostly important to use their preferred names/pronouns and consult on the terms as necessary.

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