talking about things with very low impact or consequences
Isn’t that the definition of small talk?
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some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 weeks ago
I hate talking small. I’m not good at it. It’s one of the reasons I have a limited number of profound friendships rather than being liked by everybody. I’m an introvert. I’m ok with that. My partner can chat when we see each other after work because when we’re talking about the kitties doing something cute or what we wanna have for dinner that’s not small talk. That’s talking about things with very low impact or consequences.
lunarul@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 weeks ago
No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.
psx_crab@lemmy.zip 4 weeks ago
That is small talk though.
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 weeks ago
No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.
iii@mander.xyz 4 weeks ago
I think that’s smalltalk
iii@mander.xyz 4 weeks ago
No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.
qarbone@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
What else do you imagine is part of “small talk”?
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 weeks ago
No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.
qarbone@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I already lack the energy required to try and explain how you’ve created an unnecessary division.
Small talk is just talking about unimportant things, because it can be considered impolite to start digging into the core of stranger’s identity while you’re both waiting in line. Sounds to me like you’re putting your discomfort around strangers on small talk.
I am also an introvert. I’ve just put effort into trying to continue conversations.
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 weeks ago
Eh, I don’t have the energy either. It’s very hot here today and I just walked home. It’s not as bad as you perceive, but I’m gonna go ahead and let it go.