Comment on Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

• Pandemanium@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Your personal judgements about others are not “an elephant in the room” that needs to be talked about. They are not objective facts. Ask yourself, when you think someone is unattractive, why is it so important to you that they know you think they are unattractive? What do you think you are accomplishing by bringing it up?

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  • masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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    • ExtraMedicated@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Who the fuck has conversations about people’s attractiveness? That shit is boring.

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• SolOrion@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It’s not about being open and honest. It’s about that not being relevant. Your opinion on how someone looks isn’t relevant, helpful, or necessary unless it’s directly asked for.

  There’s nothing awkward, nervous, or repressed about not going out of your way to open your mouth and make someone feel bad about themselves. You can simply not fucking say something that crosses your mind.

  “Brutally honest” people are incredibly annoying. They think they’ve discovered a social cheat code so they can get away with being an absolute ass because they’re just an Honest Person™.

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• Empricorn@feddit.nl ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  beating around the bush

  everything that could possibly be sensitive

  Being nervous and awkward

  avoiding the elephant in the room

  self consciousness

  You’re literally strawman-ing what I said. Empathy is considering others. It really is that simple…

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• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Sounds like someone didn’t check their empathy before posting honestly!

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