Comment on Year of our Lord 1195

Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

• southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Moding, be it boy or girl, is presenting as that gender, regardless of internal gender.

  As an example, a trans woman may sometimes choose to present masculine for whatever reason. That would be boymode.

  However, a trans man choosing to present masculine is also boymode.

  Obviously, it would follow that non binary people or gender fluid people would also be able to choose to present masculine and thus go boymode.

  The then exists as an expression of presentation, regardless of birth assigned gender, or genital/gonad configuration at the time of moding.

  I’m cishet male, and could girlmode if I so choose, as the term does exist within that frame of reference as well, albeit rarely. It isn’t even about passing; my giant bearded self could still girlmode, and it would be an accurate usage of the term still.

  That’s actually part of what the greentext implies; the Lord of that realm isn’t passing, but is still boymoding, and his subjects respect that once they’re made aware of it.

  That all being said, it is rarer to see the term used when presenting as your affirmed gender. It would typically only be used when presenting as your assigned gender. It’s also unusual to see it happen once someone is well into transition as there’s less and less point in moding assigned gender.

  The caveat in that is that it is a slang term. It may not be used exactly the same everywhere, or even reliably so in the same locale. I’ve known people that reject it applying to anyone that’s cis, as it isn’t the same thing for a cis person to present as a different gender than their assigned one. There’s a totally separate set of social mores around it, and that does matter. It’s also fairly rare for cis folks to present as other than their cis gender, and it wouldn’t be for the same reasons. But I have heard and seen it used in that context, so I included it here to be thorough.

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  • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Would cis male drag queens would an example of girl moding by a cis person?

    I’ve used the term, but never really considered it’s edges, if you know what I mean

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    • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Drag is such a specific thing, I don’t know if most of it would count tbh.

      Stage drag is as much an art performance as anything else. It’s an exaggeration of feminine presentation. I wouldn’t argue or fuss if someone said it was girlmode, but I don’t think of it that way usually.

      However! There are performers, and non performers, that “serve real fish”. While that term is contentious, it’s a distinct part of drag; and it’s about presenting in such a way as to directly mimic standard feminine presentation rather than the exaggerated and performative side. So it would definitely count, imo.

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      • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        “serve real fish”

        Been around a lot of drag queens, my ex used to do make up at a gay club. Never heard that one.

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  • Phen@lemmy.eco.br ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    In the greentext itself I got quite confused with the multiple pronouns and terms. I’m still not sure if it’s meant to be a trans women who’s saying that they are out in their assigned gender, or just a trans men.

    My confusion comes from the fact that they seemed to appreciate being called “ladyship” but then mention they are in boymode.

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    • Star@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      It’s a trans woman who is excited to be seen as her true self, despite the fact that she was attempting to look like a man. The humor in this comes from the fact that this is a normal experience for modern trans people, and when it happens absent of danger it is cause for celebration. This is ‘male failing’ and most trans women would be thrilled if it happened to them.

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      • ComicalMayhem@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        oh I totally misread it. I thought “lord’s entourage” included Lord and Lady, instead of it being the lady herself but she was just boymoding. was very confused.

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  • Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Thanks for the comprehensive lesson. Not living in an English-speaking country, I was utterly confused.

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    • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      No worries at all :)

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• Phen@lemmy.eco.br ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Modern? It’s over 800 years old.

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  • tauren@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    You don’t need to make us feel old, jeez.

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• InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I’m not familiar with modern slang

  Okay grandpa

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  • Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I’ll make your grandmother howl like a dog trapped in a burning house if you don’t elucidate me within 5 minutes. My balls are in your court now.

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    • jjagaimo@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Please remove your balls

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• Asidonhopo@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I’ve always seen the former but I suppose it could be either

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