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twice_hatch@midwest.social 2 weeks agoidk I don’t wanna call myself bi cause I’m not into most men I’ve ever met, I don’t wanna mislead people
mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
JakenVeina@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
Neither are more gay men and straight women.
Foreigner@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You’re heteroflexible?
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
The thing about labels is that their usage depends on the particular context at time of use. I have a friend who is non binary, for example, but finds herself weary of explaining how someone can be femme presenting, use she/her pronouns, and be non binary. This means that when talking to people who aren’t LGBTQ, she finds “lesbian” is the most effective label to communicate, even though it’s a label she has largely outgrown the truth of. For some people, how they engage with identity labels is quite straightforward, and they present the same labels out to the entire world. For other people, more nuance is needed, and that’s okay too.
That is to say that if you read the above comment and thought “bi but with a type sounds like me, but I don’t want to call myself bi”, that’s fine. Labels like “bi” can help make oneself be more legible to the world at large, but you do not owe the world that. You are allowed to have complexity that doesn’t neatly fit into simple labels, and even if you did strongly identify with a label, you’re not obligated to divulge this freely.