My cousin was raised super religious and sent to religious schools that barely taught anything. When she graduated high school and went to a real college she flamed out hard.
She couldn’t keep her grades up because she hadn’t been educated well. Flunked out and moved in with a tattoo artist living in a trailer. Got pregnant a year later and decided to keep it.
Ended up working at a call center to support the baby and her husband who was over 20 years older. He ended up dying in his 50s so she moved back in with the parents.
victorz@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The best thing you can do is to educate and instill trust. Trust in both ways. Make sure your kid(s) can trust you, and that they know you trust them.
That’s how I didn’t do any stupid shit growing up, I feel. Also had a very solid group of friends. That helps a lot.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The trust issue is so real. I can’t even imagine how different I’d be if I grew up trusting and being trusted. I knew my parents lied to me sometimes and they always accused me of it, despite me constantly getting myself in trouble by volunteering honesty no one asked for. A therapist once told me my role in the family seemed to be “truth teller”. I think she was right about that. Maybe I was overcompensating for my family lying by calling out the truth constantly.
It’s a bizarre thing for your parents to believe strangers (in one case a jerk kid who rode my bus) who make shit up, but not believe you, their child. I guess it’s them accidentally admitting they’d lie if they were in the situation they think you’re in.