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Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

As of 2 days ago I’m now an uncle. Bro and SIL had a bubs.

Will be interesting to see how the dynamic plays out from here.

Ol’ boy bankrolled and organised the whole thing (IVF + the rest) as he was in an adjacent field. Ol’ boy and girl went in to see her and bubs yesterday and SIL didn’t let them see it lol.

It’s her bubs and she has every right to dictate what happens but having the p’s mention that 5 (!) times within the space of an hour I’m finding it odd. I don’t know what the etiquette is really. There are no issues b/w them and her or bro so I’m not sure what to make of it.

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Eagle@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
There’s a trend atm among new mums exerting their control over things like visitors. On one hand, I sort of understand protecting your space as a new mum, been there, done that and felt all the feels that go with it. But some are taking it to the extreme and don’t realise that they are alienating their support networks and then complain that nobody has supported them.

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- Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  That last bit defines this entire era.
  
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Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
This lady sounds like a manipulative control freak, and will use her baby as a tool to control your brother and your parents further, if not drive a bigger wedge between them.

Beware.

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- Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  I think you’re absolutely right.
  
  Gonna keep my distance a bit heh.
  
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Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
This is so sad. It should be a time of bringing family closer together with love and joy and she’s just handing out confusion and sadness.

With a mum like that bro and baby needs all the friends they can get. Right now be a good sib. Say nothing about what is happening but do listen.

and hugs

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TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Were they invited? Or did they just show up? I’d have decked someone if they just showed up. It was a mega stressful time for us. Everyone got FaceTime, it’s not like they were shut out. But everyone was asked to give us time before meeting Tinyest.

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- Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Yea they were invited but I think there was some miscommunication about timing which was unfortunate.
  
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  - TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    That’s tough yeah. Easy for misunderstandings to blow out in those first few months. Honestly the first 6 months is hell.
    
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