Comment on Are your parents "supposed" to be your role models?

• shyguyblue@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  My parents served as an example of “what not to do”.

  I made a personal vow years ago, that i would never be what my dad was to me, to anybody else…

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• Cenzorrll@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Your role models are your own. If you aren’t modeling your behavior after your parents, then they aren’t your role models, straight up. You may model certain behaviors from them, but not others.

  Break it down a smidge. What role are you modeling? If you had a really good teacher in the past, and you use how they taught you to teach someone else, they are the role model for you when teaching someone, but they aren’t your role model for something like how to treat your partners.

  That’s the neat thing about being your own person. You get to be who you want, treat people how you want. Your role models are who you want them to be. I would caution against being an asshole, though. Don’t model asshole behavior.

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• lordnikon@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Also parents can still be role models even if they are shit parents. You just flip the script from be like these people to a list of what not to do.

  The fact you are asking this question shows great self awareness and that’s half the battle right there.

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