FatTony
@FatTony@lemm.ee
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 1 day ago:
I don’t think it’s wise to treat people you’re romantically interested the exact same you would any other person. That’s how I got into this mess, to be honest. I actually feel like if I were more upfront about it I now wouldn’t be asking here.
stop treating women differently from men
True and I never have otherwise. But you should absolutely treat people you like differently.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 1 day ago:
Where am I supposed to get a hamster wheel??
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 1 day ago:
“that’s all fine but I genuinely begin to develop feelings for her” and “I just don’t really care all that much for a friendship”.
Okay I may have not worded it very well there. What I mean is that I don’t want to be in this “friendzone” any more. I really don’t and I don’t see myself being happy remaining as such.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 1 day ago:
It’s nothing about her not being good enough. It’s my own feelings that are in the way.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 1 day ago:
I never said I didn’t like her. It’s quite the opposite.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 1 day ago:
The problem is that I want more than friendship. It just leaves too much to be desired.
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- Comment on Are your parents "supposed" to be your role models? 5 weeks ago:
Well shit.
- Submitted 5 weeks ago to [deleted] | 17 comments
- Comment on I was today years old when I found out Glomming on some Glizzys means eating some hot dogs. 1 month ago:
A real glizzy gladior!
- Comment on Where is the line between being yourself and trying to change? 3 months ago:
Safe from what?
Safe from making someone uncomfortable?
And who says it’s important?
According to folks over at my previous posts. (Though they also emphasised communication)
- Comment on Where is the line between being yourself and trying to change? 3 months ago:
I think, I’m somewhere in the middle of all that. I’m fine with flirting, I’m more or less indifferent about it. But if it wasn’t as important as people say it is, I don’t think I would do it, just to be safe.
- Submitted 3 months ago to [deleted] | 8 comments
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
But I’m not in a relationship?
- Comment on How do you express romantic interest in someone? 3 months ago:
Thank you! That was very thorough and clear.
- Submitted 3 months ago to [deleted] | 16 comments
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
Of course you still need to find a way to show interest
Dumb question maybe. But do you have any tips on how to do that?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
Damn, that’s without a doubt a perfect synopsis of what’s going on here. Seriously, I’m impressed.
“What difference would the answer make?”
If the answer is: “Yes, it’s very important.” Then I know what to improve. If the answer is something along the lines of: “The important part is the connection between the two parties.” Then I don’t know what to do, to be honest.
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
Romantic/sexual banter?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
I get the whole “Just the be yourself” message. But right now things just aren’t moving. Like, at all. And I do have plenty of hobbies. Even meeting women is genuinely not a problem for me. So I’m kind of stuck between the being myself and changing strategies. To be honest with you. If being myself means I don’t ever find someone, which over the years have quite clearly proven to be the case. Then I say: “Fuck being myself.”
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
And I usually don’t have any ulterior motives.
Well I for one usually do have said ulterior motives (I want to see them romantically). Shouldn’t I then be a bit more (flirtatiously) direct with them?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
“Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let’s meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?”
But if I sign it off like this. That would be a pretty clear subliminal message, right?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
If you say “Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let’s meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?”
When given chance, this is basically the way I go about it. Just a quick on-the-side question: How quickly do you usually suggest something like that?
And bordering on what I’d call flirting.
What would you call flirting?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
I am not a great active flirter, but I do know that my words and body language will do the heavy lifting, unconsciously.
Perhaps you’re in the same boat?
I would say, yes. However, it has been somewhat of a fruitless endeavour for me. (rightly or wrongly so)
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
But how are they supposed to find out if it’s just a nice conversation, or if I want to meet them again, or if I want to go on a date with them? If I’m having a friendly chat with someone and I suggest we meet again in a different setting, wouldn’t that be a clear enough sign?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 3 months ago:
Flirting is part of the process
Okay and how big (would you say) is that part?
It’s also a pretty broad term.
Would you say that talking amicably, counts as flirting?
- Submitted 3 months ago to [deleted] | 55 comments
- Comment on Wanna play a game? (please don't call osha) 5 months ago:
I thought the half full, half empty thing. Was about the flow of water. If you’re emptying the glass, at some point the glass will be half empty. If you fill the glass, at one point the glass will be half full.
- Comment on Fuck it, we're doing eggs this.weekend. Behold: Scotch eggs. 5 months ago:
They harder they are, the better they fit.
