FatTony
@FatTony@lemm.ee
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 1 hour ago:
It’s only fun if it’s appreciated by the other party, though.
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 11 hours ago:
Cute.
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 21 hours ago:
Hey now, I am not AI. I am a real human.
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 21 hours ago:
But your SO did like you in all that time?
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 23 hours ago:
Quick follow up question: What is your idea of flirting?
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 23 hours ago:
My question isn’t so much about whether it’s good or not. It’s about whether it’s generally necessary.
- Comment on Is flirting redundant? 23 hours ago:
Perhaps we have different ideas on what flirting is
I think we do. I see flirting as banter to make sexual/romantic intentions known.
but to me, its the things you do to build a connection (talking, joking, hanging out, etc).
How is that different from making friends though? I mean that’s exactly what I do with friends and basically anyone.
- Submitted 1 day ago to [deleted] | 38 comments
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 weeks ago:
I don’t think it’s wise to treat people you’re romantically interested the exact same you would any other person. That’s how I got into this mess, to be honest. I actually feel like if I were more upfront about it I now wouldn’t be asking here.
stop treating women differently from men
True and I never have otherwise. But you should absolutely treat people you like differently.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 weeks ago:
Where am I supposed to get a hamster wheel??
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 weeks ago:
“that’s all fine but I genuinely begin to develop feelings for her” and “I just don’t really care all that much for a friendship”.
Okay I may have not worded it very well there. What I mean is that I don’t want to be in this “friendzone” any more. I really don’t and I don’t see myself being happy remaining as such.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 weeks ago:
It’s nothing about her not being good enough. It’s my own feelings that are in the way.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 weeks ago:
I never said I didn’t like her. It’s quite the opposite.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 weeks ago:
The problem is that I want more than friendship. It just leaves too much to be desired.
- Submitted 3 weeks ago to [deleted] | 38 comments
- Comment on Are your parents "supposed" to be your role models? 1 month ago:
Well shit.
- Submitted 1 month ago to [deleted] | 17 comments
- Comment on I was today years old when I found out Glomming on some Glizzys means eating some hot dogs. 2 months ago:
A real glizzy gladior!
- Comment on Where is the line between being yourself and trying to change? 3 months ago:
Safe from what?
Safe from making someone uncomfortable?
And who says it’s important?
According to folks over at my previous posts. (Though they also emphasised communication)
- Comment on Where is the line between being yourself and trying to change? 3 months ago:
I think, I’m somewhere in the middle of all that. I’m fine with flirting, I’m more or less indifferent about it. But if it wasn’t as important as people say it is, I don’t think I would do it, just to be safe.
- Submitted 3 months ago to [deleted] | 8 comments
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
But I’m not in a relationship?
- Comment on How do you express romantic interest in someone? 4 months ago:
Thank you! That was very thorough and clear.
- Submitted 4 months ago to [deleted] | 16 comments
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
Of course you still need to find a way to show interest
Dumb question maybe. But do you have any tips on how to do that?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
Damn, that’s without a doubt a perfect synopsis of what’s going on here. Seriously, I’m impressed.
“What difference would the answer make?”
If the answer is: “Yes, it’s very important.” Then I know what to improve. If the answer is something along the lines of: “The important part is the connection between the two parties.” Then I don’t know what to do, to be honest.
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
Romantic/sexual banter?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
I get the whole “Just the be yourself” message. But right now things just aren’t moving. Like, at all. And I do have plenty of hobbies. Even meeting women is genuinely not a problem for me. So I’m kind of stuck between the being myself and changing strategies. To be honest with you. If being myself means I don’t ever find someone, which over the years have quite clearly proven to be the case. Then I say: “Fuck being myself.”
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
And I usually don’t have any ulterior motives.
Well I for one usually do have said ulterior motives (I want to see them romantically). Shouldn’t I then be a bit more (flirtatiously) direct with them?
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 4 months ago:
