Comment on Anon has his way
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 18 hours agoI’m sure you have sex real good etc etc, but honestly, a lot of heterosexual men do not have sex real good. Your conception of “loving sex” is fine and all, but often penetration alone is not pleasurable enough for women, especially if their partner is inexperienced or if neither party is familiar enough with the woman’s anatomy to find an angle that’s more stimulating. I’m not saying rough sex is the answer, but a lot of women think “boring sex” is bad because their partner is doing the technical aspects of what you’re saying “long, slow strokes” but neither party is able to make that as pleasurable for the woman involved. Male anatomy (in general) can enjoy a wider variety of stimulation than female anatomy and slowing things down can be really great for both parties, but in my experience requires more work for the female party to enjoy it to the same extent. Again, just my experience, but long and slow can easily turn into a version of starfishing with an inexperienced partner.
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com 16 hours ago
God, but this needs more awareness. There have even been studies of women’s orgasm where they showed large gaps between penis in vagina only (lowest), penis in vagina AND man’s hand rubbing, penis in vagina AND woman’s hand rubbing, and penis in vagina AND man’s hand rubbing being guided by woman’s hand. The numbers were so far apart that it just blows my mind that anyone thinks penis in vagina alone is enough.
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 15 hours ago
Yessss. The orgasm gap in general is so real and guys (not talking about OP specifically but just in general) are all like “this makes pp feel good so why you no cum yet?” Absolute zero fucks given about their female partners. Some women enjoy penetration and can cum from that alone, but I’ve had female partners that have lots of toys but no dildos because “why even bother” and that’s so valid. Solo female masturbation is 9/10 in my experience clitoral, so idk why guys struggle to understand that in and out is only going to do so much for most women.
But you know how these wanton harlots are, enjoying things outside of missionary with their husband for the sole purpose of procreation. Disgusting! Brides of satan the lot of them.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 12 hours ago
I can’t speak for anyone else but for me it’s not so much that I don’t understand it’s just a shot to the ego every time I think about it and it sucks that there aren’t a lot of options to get us both off at the same time (I know that’s stupid but I can’t help feeling that way. It’s some kind of lizard brain thing I can’t shut off). I was also with a woman who did get off on penetration for a long time and that was awesome so I sometimes find myself comparing what I’m missing out on now. Which again is shitty but I don’t know how to stop.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 13 hours ago
Eh, my SO prefers PIV only. When I get the hands involved, they’re over-stimulated. The best situation for us is PIV + hands on breasts, and bring that to pound town.