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I think if a woman you like making a hard pass at you makes you want to pass on her, you have something internal to resolve if you’re thinking you still want to be in an intimate relationship with another human being.

I mean dating at 40 has to be hard anyway. Your body does not look the same. It does not work the same. And making friends when you’re older is hard. If you’re religious you can try joining the church. At the stage thing did you go up and tell a story?

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frog_brawler@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
I think the rejection of the hard pass was maybe me more deciding that I wasn’t attracted to her. Maybe something else though, you could be right.

Atheist (but maybe Buddhist after a lot of stuff I’ve been reading recently), so the religious thing is mostly a no go. Perhaps I’ll explore Buddhism a bit more though, and see if there’s a temple or something the sort local to me. That could be interesting.

I’ve not gotten up and told a story, no. I don’t really have one that I’d like to share yet. I just enjoy listening to other peoples’ stories for the most part. There’s also the aspect of not necessarily knowing if it’s fact or fiction sometimes that adds some excitement.

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Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Whoa whoa, not every at 40 is a washed up wreck. Physical maintenance and nutrition has come a long way. We aren’t the 40+ of the 80s and 90s who looked rundown af.

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- frog_brawler@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  Yea I wasn’t going to get into that, but you’re absolutely right. I’m in the best psychical shape of my life right now, since I’ve been going to the gym almost daily since I have no one to socialize with in person.
  
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- deathbird@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  Was not trying to say 40-somethings are washed up, but if you think it’s like 20-something I have some herbal brain supplements to sell you.
  
  Also that message may have been public but it wasn’t aimed at you. I don’t know but I’m sure you’re doing great. You’re maybe taking it from a perspective of someone who is in a different place from OP.
  
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