I was a complete social reject in middle and high school so I don’t even know how to people but I just assumed that was just me and my miserable circumstances apparently a lot of people have the same problem?
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rustyfish@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I assume years of collectively crying about it online has made something as simple and natural like dating seem like this unachievable task.
Not sure if it’s just me, but I feel like young people are less capable than ever to socialise. I thought I was a social pariah, but I don’t have shit on some people out there.
fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
someacnt@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Same, I think it’s just that our kind of people are more active online.
pec@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
There’s no third places where you can just loiter.
Sunsofold@lemmings.world 2 weeks ago
From what I’ve seen/heard, it’s not specifically the ‘crying.’ It’s a general effect from online life. Online activities are much, much easier than in person. Want to feel a connection to someone? Here’s vloggers, talking straight at you in painfully earnest tones about everything in their life. Want someone to entertain you? Here’s half a dozen companies fighting to be the one you turn to. Hungry? Forget cooking. Here’s delivery options from everywhere. Horny? Porn! It’s all a click away and you don’t even need to put on pants. If getting a need met enough to get you to tomorrow takes no effort, many people aren’t going to put in the work to get, not even a guarantee, but only a chance at something better.
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
I think a big part of it is online dating is just how it’s done these days.
But yes, we’ve done a great job of over-complicating something as simple as human interaction.
rustyfish@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think so too. Online dating is just too convenient. It’s easier to arrange a date while playing video games than going into a club or other places you don’t like to begin with. I won’t lament those places dying out. Fuck them, never felt comfortable there.
But online dating should have made things easier not worse. Then again those sites aren’t free of blame too.
red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
The problem with online dating sites is that they have the wrong incentive. They want to make money, not bring people together into lasting relationships.
hanke@feddit.nu 2 weeks ago
In stark contrast to pubs and nightclubs
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
I’m actually surprised no one has made an open source solution. Probably because of all of the complexity of moderating a system like that.