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• Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  For real, sometimes the only thing that gets through my apathy is that I want my cats to live their best life

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• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Have kids, same message.

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  • medgremlin@midwest.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Kids are a really big commitment in a different way because of the psychological and cognitive needs of the child, and it would be a lot better for the kiddos if the parents have their spoons together before the kid arrives. It can be very chaotic and damaging for the child if the parent is getting their stuff together during the developmental periods. This especially goes for pregnancy because mental illness and substance use during pregnancy can seriously affect fetal development in some cases and it can even lead to miscarriage or stillbirth if things aren’t sorted out fast enough.

    So, maybe having kids might be more viable for fathers, but it’s still not a great idea because disengaged fathers can be damaging to both the baby and the mother.

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    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Oh, absolutely. I tell everyone to not have kids, knowing that those who should have kids will just ignore me and have them anyway.

      My point is just that a lot of motivation in my life comes from my obligations for my kids. It’s similar to having pets, but a lot more extreme.

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      • medgremlin@midwest.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        It’s hard to have that conversation with a 17 year old who just gave birth to their second child. There’s children out here having children because we have fuckall for sex ed in this country and human instincts and desires aren’t going to go away. I have met pregnant teenagers that knew that sex before marriage was bad and would send them to hell, and that sex is where babies come from…but didn’t know that “sex” is when “he puts his thing into me where I pee from down there” because no one ever explained to her what sex actually is.

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  • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    that’s a ponzi scheme.

    You have depression so you have 3-4 children to take care of. Then these children have depression again, again needing to have 3-4 children each to have some fun again. In the end, after 5 generations, you end up with 300 grand-grand-grand-grandchildren, and there is no more space, and they are stuck, and have to live with their depression.

    Congratulations, you just multiplied your depression by about 300.

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    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      That’s a lot more than wallowing in despair will get you.

      But yeah, don’t have kids if you’re depressed, they’ll just add a bunch more obligations and expenses, which will deepen whatever problems you have. Do have kids if you find happiness in seeing others succeed through your mentorship.

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      • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Do have kids if you find happiness in seeing others succeed through your mentorship.

        or become a teacher, i guess?

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