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Comment on uhh… my ex girlfriend and long-time friend is now cishet, very christian, and makes those “i identify as” jokes regarding trans people. would it end up bad for me if i continued to be her friend?

Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

“Should I still be friends with my ex?”

Forget the rest. She’s your ex, and for that reason alone, no. There’s a reason she’s your ex. Keeping her around just makes it harder for you to get over her.

All that other stuff is just complications on top of the fact that she’s your ex.

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Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I don’t think 6th grade “dating” needs to follow the same rules as adult dating.

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- JeSuisUnHombre@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I don’t think that’s a great rule even as adults
  
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VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
That’s bullshit, I’m good friends with several ex-partners. Might not work for some people, but definitely not a general rule.

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Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I agree. A person can wish their ex the best, but cutting contact altogether is typically the best path. Some folks are able to make it work to keep a friendship, but those seem to be outliers.

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drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
the reason was that she wanted to stay friends after losing interest in me and she liked another girl, so idk

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- PlasticExistence@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  She’s keeping you on the hook. She also doesn’t sound very stable.
  
  What do you gain from keeping this person around? Never mind her, what’s in this for you personally?
  
  For me, this relationship would have run its course at this point, and I’d move on altogether.
  
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