I think there is so much you can do for how you look - skin care, hydration, diet, exercise, etc. can radically change the way a person looks - but I tend to agree that personality matters much more. My point is that most people seem to get lost trying to make themselves physically attractive, and incel culture like looksmaxxing seem to fall into that logic as well, but they miss that the bar is lower than they expect. And of course, your point is missed by this community as well - that looks are even less important overall than how you hold yourself and interact, etc. - the mental stuff is the most important. Luckily good diet, hydration, and exercise help with that too!
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naught101@lemmy.world 14 hours agoNah. You can’t do much about how you look, beyond basic hygene and self care.
You can easily do something about being interested in other people’s lives, and being happy for them being happy and commiserating with them when they’re sad. The bonus with this focus is it also makes you feel better about yourself in the long run.
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 hours ago
naught101@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Good points. Agree completely.
iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
That was exactly how I read their comment. Don’t worry about trying to reach the ceiling, focus on staying off the floor. Basic hygiene, grooming, caring about yourself.