Well I’m probably reading too much into it, but I just think that being publicly revulsed by yourself, even in jest, teaches others how to treat you.
I know that going the other way is the path to narcissism/arrogance, and pointing out your faults keeps you humble and telegraphs that you have no defences because you dont need any… but I think that works only if you assume that people dont take others at face value. Which we all unfortunately do.
Not really sure what I’m advising here, or what the middleground exactly is here, but hopefully you can see where I’m coming from
Both directions of it are defense mechanisms. And ime it’s better to go the jokingly overconfident route than the self depreciation route, though I find a bit of both to be fun. That said here his self depreciation serves his argument.
tetris11@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
Well I’m probably reading too much into it, but I just think that being publicly revulsed by yourself, even in jest, teaches others how to treat you.
I know that going the other way is the path to narcissism/arrogance, and pointing out your faults keeps you humble and telegraphs that you have no defences because you dont need any… but I think that works only if you assume that people dont take others at face value. Which we all unfortunately do.
Not really sure what I’m advising here, or what the middleground exactly is here, but hopefully you can see where I’m coming from
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Both directions of it are defense mechanisms. And ime it’s better to go the jokingly overconfident route than the self depreciation route, though I find a bit of both to be fun. That said here his self depreciation serves his argument.
tetris11@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
Agreed on all fronts