Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke
Vespair@lemm.ee 3 months agoDo you? Because that sounds like an assumption to me.
Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke
Vespair@lemm.ee 3 months agoDo you? Because that sounds like an assumption to me.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
if he is 50 dating 20yo’s, why wouldn’t he? what’s the difference between 20yo and 15yo when you’re 50?
FozzyOsbourne@lemm.ee 3 months ago
The difference between a grown adult without that much life experience and a literal child who is still going through puberty!
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
“grown adult” at 20? yeah sure
Vespair@lemm.ee 3 months ago
Adulthood is the difference.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
What wild transformation does a human undergo on their 18th birthday that makes dating a 17yo as a 50yo man pedophilia, but dating a 18yo totally ok?
Vespair@lemm.ee 3 months ago
Legality.
For most of humanity “childhood” wasn’t even a concept in the way we think of it today. Our ability to give the people in society this society is truly one of the greatest achievements of modernity. But it’s still a somewhat arbitrary line in the sand we drew, yes. I personally believe it is a reasonable one, designed conservative enough so that one can safely assume anyone on the other side of the line has had the chance to develop and grow free of unnecessary outside influence to rightly be deemed an adult after.
If society wants to redefine the terms of where that line is drawn, that is fine, as we as members of society can do so.
But for the time being we drew the line at 18. It seemed fucked as hell to say “this is the line, this is what’s appropriate” and then demonize a man for staying within those lines. It’s fucked to say “here’s the line” when you actually mean “actually the real line is way over there and by being this close you’ve actually broken the rules.”
Dude is staying inside the lines, and interacting with those we have deemed full legal adults imbued with the right and power of autonomy. To the best of my understanding there have been no claims of coercion, abuse, or anything of that nature. So I’m sorry, but trying to convince me that dude is doing something wrong by adhering to the rules as laid for him just isn’t going to vibe with me.
barsoap@lemm.ee 3 months ago
The frontal cortex matures from roughly 14 to the early 20s, characteristic of that age is to be both impulsive and confused, while the cortex is already fully functional you’re still figuring out what to actually use it for.
That is: In the early 20s you become fully adult. Not in the legal sense (that’s usually 18), but biologically. You’re a grown-up. To argue that they can’t make their own decisions is highly infantilising.