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dwindling7373@feddit.it ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• 12emm@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

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  • bassomitron@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Agreed. Parents and kids’ childhoods do play a huge role in how they ultimately turn out. However, there are near infinite variables during their development, many of which are completely outside our control. The best thing we can do is like you said, educate, mentor, and physically and emotionally support them as best we can. Sometimes, kids just grow into douchebag adults.

    Anyway, OP, at the party you should totally just act like Mac, Charlie, and Dennis when they steal Frank’s credit card and think they’re rich.

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    • derekabutton@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Isn’t Dennis is high on crack while Mac and Charlie are squandering Frank’s riches?!

      Did somebody get addicted to crack?

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  • thefartographer@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    But we have so much experience! I, too, was once a child for nearly 18 years! /s

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    • greenshirtdenimjeans@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Physically. But mentally even longer!

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  • hydroptic@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I’ve only ever heard mostly people without kids saying this.

    Stupid people without kids. I don’t have 'em but I have a functioning cerebral cortex so I can’t even fathom saying something like that out loud

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    • dwindling7373@feddit.it ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      You do, in fact, sound extremely smart. I’m sure your caretaker had absolutely nothing to do with it and the whole field of pedagogy is chocke full of morons.

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      • hydroptic@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Where did I say the caretaker has absolutely nothing to do with it?

        But yes I guess it’s easier to win arguments when you can just wholesale invent what the other person’s saying out of thin air.

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      • forrgott@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Unlike you, who sounds…not smart.

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  • dwindling7373@feddit.it ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I can consistently sway my friends toward behaviours that are acceptable to me. I fail to see how this would somewhat be diminished in a parenting role.

    What you are saying is that education is pointless and people comes out of random number generators.

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    • ricdeh@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      That’s definitely not what they said, and I don’t see how you could read it that way except if you wanted to find something to complain about. There are much more meaningful battles to be fought than calling strangers on the internet bad parents.

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      • dwindling7373@feddit.it ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        That’s definitely not what they said

        I said I would react to getting such messadge from my child reflecting on the possible mistakes I made in raising them.

        They said that’s not how it works.

        I said education is a thing (implying therefore that parenting do actually play a role).

        I had no idea people would get so mad at this, it’s quite interesting. Do you guys all have terrible kids and are all playing a choral defense? I never said it’s easy to be a parent or that you could (or shoud) mold them into whatever you want. But you surely are not infallible and you can clearly track most people attitude and behaviour back to the parentig style and the example they’ve met in the household.

        Am I missing something? Is pedagogy being redifined from the ground up and a parent is but a feeding tool?

        (If I sounded smug is partially because my mother was constantly praising me growing up).

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    • forrgott@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Nobody said that. Well, you did, I guess.

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  • OmegaMan@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Yeah no idea what he’s even trying to insinuate here. You didn’t raise her rich?

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    • dwindling7373@feddit.it ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      You didn’t raise her to find unacceptable to train your parents to behave differently to have them fit a crowd of rich people.

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  • Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Woah, pets are not pets you train either. Pets can be just as nuanced in personality as a kid. (Our dog is currently sassier than our child and doesn’t care for Dad jokes, our kid loves the dad jokes though).

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