Comment on Anon goes on a first date
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 days agoIve met girls who spend most of their free time gaming complain things like “all he does is game, hes going no where”. Some people have dumb standards for first impressions or are just straight up hypocrites.
That said, in our hyper competitive online dating bullshit timeline, OP should have thought of one of their more interesting skills and hobbys, even if they don’t do it as often. Something like “sometime i cook a nice dinner on fridays” or “i like to ice fish in the winter” could have gathered more interest than just games. Even sticking to the gaming genre but mentioning a weekly board game meet sounds more attractive than solo gaming. It isn’t necessarily the most fair but we gotta sell our selves even more when trying to connect digitally. There is no body language or other aspects to observe, your handful of pictures and texting is all you got to make a shot, for example, I game more than i ice fish, gaming is less commitment in time, energy, and money, but ice fishing is the more interesting and skill diverse hobby so I’d choose that over gaming for first impressions
Taleya@aussie.zone 5 days ago
Ironically, you’re treating dating like a strategy game. Don’t.
If you have to lie about who you are, you’re gonna get a shit deal
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 days ago
I don’t lie about who I am, i just put forward my more interesting qualities before admiting i play 2 hours of minecraft a day. I also don’t participate in online dating.
I’d also rather a girl recomend we go ice fishing together as a date than play a game online as a date, so i often put forward my hobbies that are easier to do with other people, like mountain biking or going to a rock climbing gym in hopes of finding some common interests we can share in person.
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 days ago
Or you could be me, many hobbies but due to crippling ADHD I’m the only one who cares about them and they don’t all jive well with each other’s stereotypical “group” (like say I enjoy running but also enjoy unhealthy eating, for example). Every woman could VERY easily find a hobby of mine they think is neat, AND one they think is “bad,” and maybe even one we share, but I contain too many multitudes of unfinished thoughts and products to judge me on the one mentioned when put on the spot (cause that’s probably just the project I paused today.)
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
Embellishing? Its still lieing to imply you mostly do interesting things when you actually play minecraft for two hours a day.
I play rocket league for a few hours a day and I would not be shy to mention that quickly. The person you replied to is right, if you put forward yourself honestly then you might actually find someone who likes you. Girls play minecraft too, in case you weren’t aware.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 days ago
I’m not embellishing anything. Ice fishing is a hobby I am more interested in and enjoy more than gaming. I have more good stories about ice fishing than I do about gaming. I also find it leaves more potential to further the conversation. Maybe she likes to fish on a boat in the summer, or maybe they have experiences from their childhood ice fishing they want to share.
I am a very outdoors person and I’d like my partner to be the same, so when I meet a potential partner, i like to start by finding out if they have any outdoor passions.
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
I’ve tried treating it like a MOBA, but I always use my ult too early.