Comment on Anon gets corrected

• LandedGentry@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

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  • rektdeckard@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Understanding is a meeting in the middle. It’s reasonable to correct the record on how you as an individual would like to be gendered. It’s not reasonable to expect all of society to drop the use of a word that is colloquially accepted as gender neutral. At a certain point, your outrage is the antisocial behavior.

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    • LandedGentry@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

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      • redwattlebird@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

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        I think you’ve completely misunderstood what everyone is saying because that’s exactly what everyone you’ve responded to, including myself, is saying that they would do.

        Tailor their words for that conversation but move on to a different group of people from there. Not permanently tailoring the way they speak because it is highly unlikely that they’ll engage again.

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      • Classy@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        I think the amount of people who either (1) do not know the term to be gender neutral or (2) purposefully use it as a gendered term to anger people is less than 1%, honestly.

        I live in a pretty conservative area, and I’m not exactly a leftist either, and I’ve never seen guys used in any way other than just as a generic for “you all”

        it’s also just not important enough to die on a hill for

        Cool, so we agree it’s silly to get so strung up over it, huh? Of course people tailor their language, it happens constantly. If someone is going to go out of their way to construe a perfectly normal part of speech as me being malignant and demand that I change my behavior for their benefit I’m going to tell them to fuck off, personally. If someone is respectful and asks tactfully…sure, I’ll adjust for them. Though internally I’ll be judging them for being a snowflake.

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  • pythonoob@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    I just told you I would respect it. But I don’t view “you guys” as something divisive. So yeah I don’t want to be around those people

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    • LandedGentry@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

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      • pythonoob@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Nah I’m doing pretty ok.

        Also fuck maga

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  • redwattlebird@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    I think it’s more that if you get annoyed at something like that, I would think you’re way too much of a hassle to be friends with long term. It’s just a matter of compatibility and the choice to filter out incompatible people in your social circle. It’s nothing personal.

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    • LandedGentry@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

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      • redwattlebird@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Of course I would stop at their request, however if I were that person with PTSD, I wouldn’t expect the world to cater to my disabilities and strategise on how I could function in society by managing it. That’s what I currently do with my own PTSD and it makes me a stronger person for it.

        Also, that’s hardly comparable to using the phrase “you guys” in a conversation. That phrase has always been gender neutral and far nicer sounding than “you people” or “you all”.

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Well, there’s a massive difference between “don’t call me a guy” and someone saying “hey guys” to a group to have one member fire back a response about gendered terms

    One of these is clear stating of respectful boundaries, the other one is just offloading (and very likely speaking for/over others) to score imaginary purity points

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