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- Comment on How do I deal with a very negative inner voice/second conscience that's constantly loud? It's like I have two different people in my head but they're both me, telling me opposite things endlessly. 1 week ago:
Lots of good advice here already, especially regarding IFS, which is a therapy approach that works with splitting one’s inner monologue into a conversation between different voices.
Since a lot of commenters seem to equate inner voices with schizophrenia or psychosis I’d like to let you (and them) know it’s not that unusual to have inner voices with different personalities! I found my inner voices very helpful to deal with my mental challenges and this never turned into anything uncontrollable. I had a similar very critical inner voice which I then recognized as mainly being my mother’s way of criticizing me - even after I went no contact with mom, she was still occupying space in my head telling me everything I did wrong.
The way out was really simple, CBT-based: a therapist reminded me to be kind to myself and I just practised - like giving myself an inner hug every time I used the unkind voice and remembering that kindness to myself is important (not beating myself up for being unkind!), and to avoid self-deprecating humour. It just took some time, maybe a year, and now I see clear improvements. The voice is pretty much gone. At the moment I have no need to separate into different voices and feel quite at home within myself. Hope you get there soon, you seem a be on a good path towards it!
- Comment on Reddit bought a giant ad in Paris, urging young french people to create an account 1 week ago:
Not knowing what number 3 is
- Comment on Reddit bought a giant ad in Paris, urging young french people to create an account 1 week ago:
What the fuck, that looks absolutely desperate! I’m sure it will have the opposite effect. Fuck reddit.
- Comment on Belkin is ending support for nearly all its Wemo smart home devices 2 weeks ago:
It’s nice you found a way to have your smart home working with open source solutions.
Sorry for having to bring this up, but I really wish you didn’t have to include the ‘wife stupid with tech’ trope in your post and that awful phrase ‘the wife’ that seems to be so popular with some guys these days. It seems so disrespectful to talk in this way about the person you share your life with.
- Comment on Belkin is ending support for nearly all its Wemo smart home devices 2 weeks ago:
And another pile of junk has been created in the endless "Buy-this-cool-shit -> Sorry-this-cool-shit-is-obsolete -> … " cycle. Poor environment.
My home is dumb as fuck. My light bulbs only obey the flick of old fashioned light switches. My fridge doesn’t try to engage in conversation. I have to close my curtains by hand. I monitor my health by figuring out how I feel. This old fashioned life of manual drudgery still leaves me sufficient time to laugh about the fools who buy this kind of stuff.
Every bit of tech you buy these days is just conspiring to make you buy more tech. The best option for your financial and mental health is to avoid everything marketed as “smart and innovative must-have” like the plague.
- Comment on The dreaded she's typing icon 2 weeks ago:
Was gonna say that but you did it better
- Comment on One UI 8 gives us our first look at Samsung's upcoming tri-fold phone 3 weeks ago:
Don’t forget that you have to pay for an additional subscription to use SamsungShave with your new 5 fold and that your have to give the app access to all your private data - but who wouldn’t do that for a really close shave!
- Comment on Meta has found another way to keep you engaged: Chatbots that message you first 3 weeks ago:
'“This allows you to continue exploring topics of interest and engage in more meaningful conversations with the AIs across our apps,” a Meta spokesperson said. ’
‘meaningful conversations with the AIs’ makes me want to laugh, or cry. Welcome in a world where meaning has lost all meaning.
- Comment on One UI 8 gives us our first look at Samsung's upcoming tri-fold phone 3 weeks ago:
The Gillette-ization of phones? How exciting /s
- Comment on Why do Conservatives physically look evil? 3 weeks ago:
I won’t fight a war together with any moron who will fight others based on their looks, so I guess you’re on your own there … I’ll probably fight others based on their actions, so hit me up again once you’ve reached that stage of moral development.
- Comment on Why do Conservatives physically look evil? 3 weeks ago:
Guess what, to the conservatives you look evil. Let’s just not play this game, it usually doesn’t end well.
- Comment on Walmart Scales Back Self-Checkout Amid Security and Customer Feedback 4 weeks ago:
A friend told me about her experience in a fully automated hostel with sleeping pods where the automatic doors may or may not malfunction when you try to open them with a magnetic wrist band. That’s horror film material imo. I hope this shit gets wrecked and forgotten together with the self checkout. I’d like to meet some real people please, all you profit hungry corporation go shove these robots up yours yesterday.
- Comment on Hot enough for ya? 4 weeks ago:
Oh wait I do have a solar cooker already, parked in front of my house. No need to waste time building one. Gotta remember next time it gets hot and sunny!
- Comment on Lights out 4 weeks ago:
Best fucking nosebleed of my entire childhood!
- Comment on Anon is an anthropologist 11 months ago:
Go solarpunk!
- Comment on What's up with all the "___punk" stuff? 1 year ago:
Thispunk.
- Comment on We're all a little crazy 1 year ago:
No, conciseness is the ability to describe things in few words. You probably meant to say consumption.
- Comment on Bit insensitive, ya think? 1 year ago:
I snorted, slightly ashamed of myself
- Comment on I have so many lists... 1 year ago:
oh no you just reminded me
- Comment on 1000 years from now physics is forgotten and all that remains is the legend of two hobbits, Charm and Spin, and their quest for the Higgyboson. At this point, is physics true? 1 year ago:
This reminds me very much of Riddley Walker, have you read it?
Is physics true now? Is truth something with exactly defined borders?
- Comment on Comparison: Coop Cloud, Yunohost, similar platforms 1 year ago:
It’s great to be able to run a server with functioning stuff on it when one doesn’t know anything about servers. Anything else around self-hosting would have been too much of an intimidating learning curve for me, but in the meantime I’ve picked up a lot of knowledge and terminology just by running the YH. It’s like training wheels, it’s great if you know a bit of tech stuff, but not enough.
I think it will last me a while before I outgrow it, don’t have enough time to really sit down and study server administration to the point where I feel safe to not fuck it up. I’ll let you know 😅
- Comment on Comparison: Coop Cloud, Yunohost, similar platforms 1 year ago:
Are they anti-container or just anti-Docker, I wonder?
- Comment on Karrot - Start a group, become a community 1 year ago:
Just before your post about Karrot I finally (re-)installed Agora on Yunohost as a collaboration suite. First few users onboarded and praying it works. It’s a bit ugly but does the job. Karrot looks to be more map-focused than Agora from a very fleeting look, I don’t think I’ve seen it in the Yunohost catalogue.
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- Comment on Karrot - Start a group, become a community 1 year ago:
Is this a self-hostable platform? I just see a signup option.
- Comment on What animal could you take in a fight? 1 year ago:
no you can’t
- Comment on If one state changed its state flag to be the exact same as another, is that a copyright violation? 1 year ago:
I thought this was about programming
- Comment on it always interesting when multi billion dollar company's costing system is a 63 tab excel 97 spreadsheet at it's core... 1 year ago:
Knitting pattern design
- Comment on Is there a name for downplaying your suffering because other people have bigger problems? 1 year ago:
That would be the exact opposite from what OP describes, where a person goes “Oh woe me, all the weight of the world is on my shoulders and I get zero acknowledgment!”
I guess somewhere between the extremes is a healthy range of “My life sucks, and so does everybody else’s.”
- Comment on A genre of Country Music... 1 year ago:
Well I guess his monkey died, does that count?