monsterpiece42

@monsterpiece42@reddthat.com

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is your pet peeve in 2024?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  As a psychology nerd:

  • the lack of understanding and empathy for others (even when their opinions are different or “wrong”

  • The lack of understanding of how behavior is driven and encouraged to change.

  • The comfort level with looking at something very complex and assuming you know it deeply in moments (referring to short form video “teaching” psychology and mental health stuff)

  • The overall disconnect between the physical medicine community and the psychological/mental health communities (i.e. mental health is a huge driver in cancer, autoimmune, and other diseases)

  • I could go on. Learning more is my passion but damn it’s so depressing when I begin to understand something and see the abounding ignorance on it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨lemmy.ca user Is this true?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m guessing this is not a required demographic question in Canada.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We took on Google and forced them to pay out £2bn - BBC News⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, good to know. I appreciate the info!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We took on Google and forced them to pay out £2bn - BBC News⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What’s AMP and why is it undesirable?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Y=-x²⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You sure? I usually have a good eye for that stuff and I don’t see it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Y=-x²⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Most of us got it lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨solved⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Watch it for the plot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's going on at Mozilla these days?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  An actual answer: techcrunch.com/…/mozilla-exits-the-fediverse-and-…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How is "son of a gun" an insult?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  They use it similar to “rascal”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Think my radiator temperature thing is broken.. any ideas?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I find your response baffling. I think it was completely out-of-pocket but I’m going to extend a one-time olive branch in good faith that there was some sort of misunderstanding.

  I am open to a proper explanation as to how specifically it was hurtful or disrespectful. And if it was and I’m missing a social cue here, I would love to know how that equates to such an aggressive response. My absolute best guess is, that you read it as “you can’t be good at anything”, but I said “you can’t be good at everything”, which literally implies that you are good at other things.

  I actually was a certified HVAC tech for a few years. I have seen people get seriously hurt not knowing when their system had steam in it or from not being able to control when the boiler kicks on (mostly renters) and steam starts shooting out of the hole mid-repair. I don’t have any way to assess your skills over the internet so I suggested the safe option. Similar logic to, if you don’t know if someone can work on cars, maybe don’t tell them to do their own brakes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Think my radiator temperature thing is broken.. any ideas?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I truly mean no disrespect; no one can be good at everything. But if this is the vocabulary you use to describe the object and the problem, it’s probably best to call a pro.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My personal ranking of every one of the FlatOut games⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Cool write up!

  I recommend you play TRAIL OUT, which is a spiritual successor to the best FLATOUT games. I like it a lot and would love to hear your thoughts!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨lolirl⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m here for that type of family memory.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  How likely is it that the people you were tight with were neurodivergent as well? Looking back, I had a huge friend group of probably 25-30 in high school (though I was only close with like 2 of them, and cordial/friendly with the rest) and this left me “off the scent” of discovering my Autism until my 30s. Looking back, I would be surprised if a single person in t hat group wasn’t Autistic or ADHD at least, if not several other things too. We were just lucky enough that we all found each other and didn’t judge. We considered each other “The Island Of Misfit Toys” or the “weird” kids, which I believe tracks well.

  I also found myself to be very polarizing. Either I was super friendly with people or I was literally openly mocked with little in between.

  I also had an isolating phase when I joined the military. I had maybe one to two friends at the best times, and none through most of the rest of the time.

  Later in life (late 20s), I “perfected” my mask and got back on the social side of life but I wasn’t happy. Only recently have I learned what Autistic masking is and how to stop doing it, and I’m fairly close with about 6 people now, which is the most real friends I have ever had.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Might be time to do a little research my friend.

  The extremely oversimplified and short version of it is, a trauma mask is something that kicks in automatically to protect you. Autistic masking is a form of trauma masking and it is fully automatic and usually not known to the person that they are doing it. We learn the skills to get through most normal social situations, but beyond that there is little development. So we do all the neurotypical things to blend in and it works until people realize that it’s fake, and then they feel like they’ve been deceived and they don’t like us.

  The fix for this is, as you go on a journey of self-discovery and learn how to stop masking you will present yourself as your authentic self, and attract the right kind of friends. It is a difficult journey, and especially because almost always we don’t realize that we’re doing it at all. I don’t know if you believe that your neurodivergent or autistic, but I also believe that there are other neurotypes that are able to trauma mask similarly to autistic masking. You may find good company in an autistic community because they will understand how that works. There’s also something oddly comforting knowing that you’re in a group of “weird” people and it will help you get your real self out.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If you’re autistic, there’s a good chance that autistic masking is the root cause here. If you have social anxiety especially, your mask will kick in automatically (subconsciously) and come off as fake to most people, and they will not like you for it. A quick test for this is, are you good at making a good first impression or short time of friendship and then it kinda falls off with time? If yes, masking is likely in play. I highly recommend the book Unmasking Autism even if you’re not autistic. It applies to others as well and it is excellent.

  The short term (maybe long term…?) solution is to make autistic friends. They’ll understand “the weird” and it should be much simpler. Try searching around your local area for autism or neurodivergent clubs and see how you feel around other similarly-minded people.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I once did a toke at a party and then I died true story⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The fun bus has no brakes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I once did a toke at a party and then I died true story⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  🎵 And I should have died 6000 more 🎶

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's your favourite and/or least favourite gaming hardware?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah basically a kneecaped PC with horrible data policy. Example, if you have a game with a 3rd party save/account like a lot of games do, Sony owns it and you can not migrate it to other platforms. I bought my nephew a gaming PC and he lost about 2000hrs of progress in Apex because Sony owns his account.

  I’m not even a snob against consoles, just Sony sucks balls these days. I’d go with an Xbox but by then you’re basically buying a PC… Although you can prob get a cheaper price on an Xbox especially if you’re not building your own machine.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It will outlive us all⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Higher than that, I have a keyboard with 8000hz polling and a mouse with 4000hz polling. Anything over maybe 2k at most is hard to perceive, at least for me

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would cause a person to speak in different accents randomly?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My first thought as well. I this autistic masking would be more suitable here but technically both could work.

  That said, there’s a lot of great ideas in this thread.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Choices and consequences gameplay⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Same dev

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(Possibly stupid) T440 Thinkpad upgrade idea?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I wouldn’t worry about having a non-p. I’d bet the extra battery life would be worth the slight hit to performance.

  And yeah, Thinkpads are tanks, and I appreciates that about them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(Possibly stupid) T440 Thinkpad upgrade idea?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sure thing! So Lenovo has the PSREF library which is awesome about old hardware specs, so you can always look up what you could have got in your machine back when they were new.

  Here’s a link to the .PDF for your T440.

  One of the reasons I like Thinkpads so much is the support of the community with mods, parts and so on. Feel free to hmu if you need Thinkpad help lol.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(Possibly stupid) T440 Thinkpad upgrade idea?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So I don’t have a direct answer about vanilla/s/p board compatibility but my question for you is, why not just get a T440 board? They can be had on eBay for $80-100 USD and will drop in. You can get up to an i7-4600U, which is more than fine for daily computing with an SSD and at least 16GB of DDR3-1600.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ummm... What?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Feels like a buddy prank to me. Do you have any friends that joke like this?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is my girlfriend gaslighting me?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Jumping in, I also have a lot of BPD experience (example, a marriage of well over 10 years).

  This is very BPD-adjacent. I’m not saying OP’s gf has it per se, because there is no way we can know from here, but this is definitely on brand.

  If you read between the lines, the social conversation could written as this:

  “Heading home, I need support”

  “I’ll support”

  <Doesn’t support>

  <She feels abandoned, fight or flight kicks in and it turns her attachment-avoidant, results in silent treatment>

  <OP gives space, which is interpreted as further abandonment>

  <OPGF can’t take it anymore, and asks questions that feel like they’re out of left field because in fight-or-flight kicks in, clear thought is nearly impossible>

  <OP finally gives reassurance that he didn’t abandon her>

  <Normalcy continues>

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Found a good book⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I don’t blame you

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Found a good book⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s two on eBay right now, and one of them has a signed letter from the author.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I played the new Creeper World IXE demo, and it was excellent. Looking forward to the full release!