clockwork_octopus
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- Comment on is this the right way to establish boundaries with my nosy coworkers at the hospital? 3 days ago:
I can tell you that what works for me is to be polite but distant. I’ll say “good morning!” to my coworkers and “have a good night!” At the end of the shift. I’ll be helpful when needed, and I’ll do my best to work well with others.
However, I’ll keep an “out” handy for when people get gossipy or nosy. I’ll bring a book along to read during breaks and at lunch, or I’ll keep something work-related in my hands when I’m around a group of coworkers, as an indicator to the group that I’m not wanting to chat.
I’ve also gotten good at turning conversation back around on really chatty, insistent people. “No, I don’t have a favorite color. What’s yours?” “Yes, I do think that patient looks like Elvis, are you a fan of his?” “No, I don’t have a dog. Do you?” Basically, be really boring with your answers, but let them keep talking about themselves, as they’re likely tire themselves out eventually. Works if you can stand it, and if you can do your job with a coworker talking at you for an hour. Last resort, and all that.
Of the examples you’ve given as responses, I think the only one that doesn’t make you come across as dickish is the one stating that you don’t want to talk about religion or politics, and even then, you sound like an asshole when you state this.
Instead of “‘I’ve worked here for a year already. It should be clear by now that I’m not a talkative person. This is a question I don’t want to answer. And I hope that you respect that.’”, you could say something like “I don’t feel comfortable talking about this”. It’s shorter and way less aggressive, and people are more likely to listen to you when you’re not all up in their face over a question, you know?
“‘that I don’t talk doesn’t mean I hate you, it means I have nothing to say’” For the record, I also think it’s ludicrous that you feel you have to say this. Maybe you could word it a little differently though, something like “I don’t mean for you to take it personally, I’m just a private person, and prefer to keep my home life at home”
“‘I don’t see what that has to do with the job’” could be “Not to be a buzzkill, but mind if we keep this conversation on work?”
- Comment on What's the rule for which 'national identity adjective' suffix to use? 3 weeks ago:
Fine. Human, then.
- Comment on Why don't electric car manufacurers put solar panels on the car roofs? 3 weeks ago:
Some do, but to do this, the point of entry to the grid needs to be set up in such a way as to support this, with an automatic transfer switch for when the grid disconnects, and a meter that reads energy use as both incoming and outgoing, rather than the default of all incoming.
Source: am electrician who has installed batteries on peoples houses
- Comment on If we get two sets of chromosomes, how does our body decide which genes to use? 4 weeks ago:
I see that you’ve put words here. I, too, know words.
- Comment on Bussy? 5 weeks ago:
I fail to see how someone else’s private relationship defines yours in any way. This sounds less like you have a problem with other people, and more like you have trust issues, whether with yourself or your partner. Either way, your relationship has nothing to do with anyone else’s, just like theirs has nothing to do with yours. If you don’t want to cheat on your partner, then don’t cheat on your partner.
- Comment on Bussy? 5 weeks ago:
I don’t understand the problem. Obviously, it’s not for you, but why do you care what other people’s relationships look like when you aren’t a part of it?
- Comment on Yep, defintely not a bad person 3 months ago:
Some people shouldn’t have children.
- Comment on Are humans the only animal that wipes things off? 5 months ago:
This guy BBC Earths
- Comment on Why do we have an internal monologue? 5 months ago:
I’ve never heard of that idea before, but it’s really interesting! I wonder how they’d be able to prove something like that?
- Comment on The four houses dads belong to. 5 months ago:
I was wondering when someone would mention MasterCrap
- Comment on The four houses dads belong to. 5 months ago:
While I agree with you on most accounts, Milwaukee drills have cheap switches on them, they’re usually the first to hang to go. The chucks seem kinda cheap too, but honestly that’s not enough for me to switch teams, I’m married to Milwaukee, and the divorce would just be too damn expensive at this point.
- Comment on *Couldn't make it as an ottoman* 5 months ago:
It’s definitely an improvement to the song
- Comment on Why do we have an internal monologue? 5 months ago:
It seems to me that you’re attempting to equate an internal monologue with intelligence, and I don’t think that’s a fair assumption. An internal monologue is just a brains way of formatting its thoughts and feelings about the information that flows in. There are many ways to do this, and one way isn’t necessarily “superior” to another. That’s just how brains work. And while many intelligent people do have this internal monologue, it’s absolutely not necessary for intelligence.
Side note, one of the most brilliant people I’ve ever met is aphasiac, and doesn’t have an internal monologue.
- Comment on Do "chest pillows" hurt for women to do? 6 months ago:
Usually that doesn’t hurt, but that doesn’t mean that it never hurts. Really it depends on how sensitive they are, or if there are underlying issues (like cysts deep inside the tissue, maybe) that would make pressure on them very uncomfortable, or downright painful.
- Comment on While everyone is watching the world stage and some are predicting WWIII, isn't there a good chance that the USA is getting close to some kind of civil war? 6 months ago:
Uh, lots and lots of people are hungry, lack shelter and jobs. Almost 600,000 people in the US right now are unhoused, and one in eight homes are food insecure (roughly 44 million). The only area where the US is doing good right now is the unemployment rate, which is currently sitting at an ideal 3.7%.
As for causes of civil war, economic inequality plays a large role, as does political deprivation, both of which are rampant (you can thank late-stage capitalism for the first, and the far-right for the second). There are other factors at play, of course, but it’s not outside the realm of possibility for the US to go there.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 months ago:
No, in the same way that it’s not sexist to criticize a person for something unrelated to their gender, and it’s not racist to criticize someone for something unrelated to their “race” or ethnicity.
I think the person in your example is being an asshole, and they clearly don’t understand the definitions of antisemitism or misogyny. Assholes are everywhere, in every country, culture, and religion. Nowhere is exempt. Which is a shame, because people everywhere are deserving of dignity and respect.
Except for assholes.
- Comment on Analog problems require kickass solutions 6 months ago:
… Do you not?
- Comment on Black Friday 7 months ago:
I remember these, I loved them as a kid! Read them all the time
- Comment on Which burn was worse? I'm gonna vote for #11. 7 months ago:
My favorite is the “delusions of adequacy”, that one had to sting! The six-pack one though sounds like possible ADHD or some other learning disorder - your child is smart enough, but lacks the ability to do well
- Comment on How would you measure your stats in real life like a game ? 7 months ago:
Faith could be your faith in humanity or your faith in yourself or someone else
- Comment on Why using the search bar to find emojis, does it display the male and female forms, but never show the gender neutral version even though such an emoji does exist? 7 months ago:
I mean, they still exist and can absolutely still be used 😁
- Comment on PEACHES COME FROM A CAN 8 months ago:
This comment is a goddamn work o fart
- Comment on What does going to a mental institution do for you? 8 months ago:
First off, therapists can be accessed without institutions. Second, a therapist will help you to learn to recognize your own patterns, strengths, and weaknesses, and will help you to learn from, process, and grow though experienced trauma. They can also help with recognizing emotions, toxic behavior (either your own or someone else’s), and give you tools to adjust.
- Comment on Redditor when women 8 months ago:
Woman here, checking in
- Comment on Would eating raw human brains make you high? 8 months ago:
I was wondering, thanks for the flavor drop!
- Comment on nooooooo 8 months ago:
I doubt it was a girl. A guy, though….
- Comment on Where can I find recipes without the author's personal anecdotes? 8 months ago:
I use an app called Paprika. It’s not free, but well worth it, imo. It removes everything but the recipe, sorts that out into a readable format, has several timer functions that can all run simultaneously, and you can tag and filter recipes however you want.
- Comment on How do you call someone born in the US besides "American"? 8 months ago:
I’m Canadian, so I didn’t learn about Andrew Jackson at all, and only was aware of his existence because he’s on some money or something. But WOW what an ASSHOLE!!! Imagine how fucking full of yourself you’d have to be to wipe out a whole village, find one tiny sole survivor, and then give him to your child to be a fucking pet.
Unbelievable!!! And then to act like you’re some kind of benevolent savior when you were the cause of the goddamn genocide to begin with. I can’t even.
I’m sorry this happened to your ancestors. I’m sorry all of it happened. People are horrible.
- Comment on Female 8 months ago:
Less women and girls make it into tech for a wade variety of reasons, not the least of which is the conditioning she receives (whether directly or indirectly) that plays a huge part in career choices. Many girls are not given the same opportunities as the boys because “it’s a waste, they’re just going to become mothers anyways”. Many girls are not pushed into STEM courses and programs because of outdated and wrong assumptions like “girls are bad at math” or “girls aren’t interested in science”, and so aren’t given the same attention as their male peers in these classes that they’re required to take. As a result, teachers with these inherent beliefs won’t present the same options to the girls as they do the boys.
- Comment on The Planet, some string and a bell. 8 months ago:
What about gravity and friction though? Because as it stands now, if the string was in a frictionless environment and was unaffected by gravity, then yes, you’d be able to ring the bell. However, the friction between the string and the earth over that kind of distance would require more pull strength than the string itself would be able to handle without breaking, unless it was made of some crazy strong material like some kind of nanocarbon alloy or something like that.