orgrinrt

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nintendo discontinuing Gold Points on the Switch eShop, ahead of Switch 2 release⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I love the thing and use it extensively whenever I can, but it is bulky and hard to fit into bags with other stuff. If there was a way to separate the palm rest bits and have most other things be flat, and thin enough, that’d make a huge difference. But the bulky palm rests attached to the thin body, it just unavoidably wastes some space, and even more if one wants to be safe and use the case.

  But it’s not that bad, easily lived with. Doesn’t remove the fact that it could be much better in that regard though.

  Still easily more portable than a laptop though! And much more comfortable to use for gaming, if that’s going to be the most common use case for a computer while you travel.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How important is flirting within the dating scene?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Just an anecdote, but I don’t think flirting is a specific thing to do per se, so feel it’s more just being honest to yourself and the other and letting it come out, I.e you shouldn’t think specifically about flirting, just say the things out loud you notice in the other or feel inside. Like tell them they look beautiful if they do. You create unneeded pressure when you think it as an explicit thing to do and master, when really, it’s messaging out loud your vulnerable observations and feelings we generally hold inside.

  You feel bubbly inside with them? I would just go ahead and say that exactly as-is, without trying to be explicitly flirty or somehow “traditional” or beholden to the norms of what we’ve been taught flirting is.

  Bubbly inside is fine if that’s what you feel. Their hair has amazing golden hues in the sun? Just say it if it feels right. You want to spend more time with them? That’s flirting, too, if you just say it out loud.

  It’s vulnerable and scary, but it’s not hard or really even a bespoke thing to do. It’s letting yourself be vulnerable and open to hurt by voicing your thoughts, feelings and desires.

  It can be fun too, since if the other is also struggling with knowing when it’s fine to voice things like that, you doing it signals it’s fine and you get all the warmth and love and voiced validation for yourself too. You get to hear how they perceive you, what is beautiful or exciting in you, you lower the barrier of just hooking up if it feels right for both, forming thoughts and feelings into words just starts coming more natural and it’s always just fun and exciting and validating, as well as all the other lovely things.

  So what I’m trying to say is don’t think about flirting as a thing, just start saying shit out loud when you feel said shit. You like the way they look? Just start voicing it out loud, and it just flows naturally from there if the excitement is mutual.

  Much less intimidating if you stop thinking about it and stressing about the concept of flirting as you’ve perceived it from media and such. It’s natural, comes readily for all, when the situation is right. All it takes is daring to take the jump, which is really the only serious blocker, being brave enough to be vulnerable. If you make flirting as a concept a blocker and a source of anxiousness too, you’ll have double the amount of anxiousness and blockers.

  Best try and consciously just say things out loud instead. Half the stress and sweat, 100% of the reward ✨

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I feel my life is empty. Is there any way to stop this?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s like I don’t give a crap about anything or anyone and don’t see what’s the point of living.

  Well, there you go. This is most likely the culprit, and it is something one can train. If caring does not come readily, you’ll have to train it, just like reading, writing and other human skills.

  Good luck.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do snakes prefer to drink warm or cool water?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Same, but it’s a fun bonus, it’s also the constant source of my many anxieties

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, even a car wouldn’t have been the most horrible choice in comparison. And those are fun, while not as fun as a train where you can all partake instead of one having to drive. Unless it’s just the two of you, then a car would be a waste and also not very fun since the other’s focused on driving.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Elon's understanding of science.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  ”year”, ”year”, …

  Yes this makes sense

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do smokers specifically seem to be disproportionally bad for littering?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ah, that old pattern. Damn. I recognize it and see it way too much around. Luckily not much in my inner circles, but spaces I can’t avoid like work for example. It’s starting to eat up on me.

  This is one of those weirdly specific pet peeves I have. For the life of me I can not get into the headspace where that is the outcome of the whole chain of logic and intuition that goes into having that stance, and, more importantly, holding to it despite ample chances, throughout tens of years, to change your mind or act differently. At 50, I see you’re still lashing out in this pattern? But why, man, why?

  Surely it ought to feel good to see others doing the right thing, so it wouldn’t feel as bad for yourself to do the wrong thing. Assuming you can’t just stop doing it (Many habits are extremely hard to kick, so that’s entirely human and understandable, not faulting anyone for that). But this way, the total amount of good is better when it’s only you doing the wrong thing, so you can just be the margin of error, sort of? Have less of a negative impact overall. Be implicitly slightly better yourself, by this grace of others. Or at least you should end up feeling that way, or something along those lines, right? Or at the very least, feel just nothing, be entirely oblivious to the whole thing. That’d be human and understandable too. It’s a habit. You don’t necessarily think about those. You just do them.

  But to lash out for that? Be conscious enough to realize this all, but instead of any other kind of understandable human way, you, of all things, lash out to those doing the different thing. I just can’t figure it out. Why? I suppose it could be a subconscious coping mechanism to shield one’s self from the fact that they are not doing the right thing, but it feels off that it would come out aggressive or you know combative some way. At others, at least. I get that you might feel bad, and “guilty”, sort of, but surely nobody’s mind goes from “I feel guilty” to “it’s your fault I’m feeling guilty”? Ugh.

  I find my lack of perspective often very anxiousness-inducing. I can emphatise with such a wide range of lives and beings and situations, but there are so many I simply can’t, often similar to this specific thing. Makes me nervous about me potentially being selfish or stubborn because I can’t see it. This is one of those things. Makes me sweat, almost.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do smokers specifically seem to be disproportionally bad for littering?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It took me over ten years to realize this too, although I was young and stupid so it kind of follows. I started carrying a bag with a seal with me and if there wasn’t a public ash tray in view, I’d just drop them in there and I was so ashamed when I first started that, since it was so easy and all the things I thought would be problems, like the smell, just… literally never was. And how quickly the bag would fill up, ugh. All that used to go to the ground. Note however that I was conscious of littering and always if I knew there was an ash tray, say, no more than some 100m detour from my current path, I’d just take the extra steps to put it there. But they are surprisingly rare, especially towards the end of my smoking habit, when smoking started to really die out and be a lot less common. A lot of places, like bars for example, didn’t necessarily put ash trays by the door or terrace, which was how it used to be.

  I’m lucky I got out of the habit. But I can sort of emphatise those who do it without thinking about it, especially if they are young.

  Younger generations are also lucky, at least here, since smoking is so ludicrously expensive nowadays with the taxes and all, and add to that good education, I very rarely see young people smoking anymore. Seems to be mostly people in their 30s or 40s — my age group — and of us, mostly the “hillbilly” types.

  I do use nicotine pouches though, to this day. Low nicotine ones, but anyway. Those are very natural for not trashing, like the Nordic snus, since the pucks/containers come with its own small compartment for the used pouches, that’s easy to clean up at home. And those pucks are very recyclable too (granted that the region has the sort of plastic sorting that differentiates washable/directly reusable containers like we do for glass) which at least from what I have seen, gets done properly a lot of the time.

  In general, I think the newer generations are much more aware of all this and do a great job of being conscious of the environment, not only at the global scale, but also just the local environment and surroundings too.

  Let’s just hope we didn’t fuck up bad enough so that they might have a chance at adulthood and actually transferring all that to more effective and serious politics and activism. We might just get saved ourselves, too, if they just learn to be decisive enough to push us fuckups out of the picture. God I hope enough of them have the dreams, passion and idealism to actually have that drive and fire.

  This became a random tangent, sorry if you got this far!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are dating apps a fraud since the beginning?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My current and most of my more recent relationships started from tinder, which has been more or less the “default” at least here in my age group (20-30). A few were from Jodel or such in between, but I’ve had most luck with the swipey app. Both poly and mono, depending on the phase I was going through at the time.

  I think at least most of my friends have met their partners (most being long term by now, with children and such, like mine too currently) that way. But I live in a relatively small country, so maybe that affects the spread in the apps. When you are just a few million people in total speaking the language, there’s not much sense I suppose to spread thin between several apps.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are dating apps a fraud since the beginning?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I generally hate thinking like this, but ultimately, as with everything, there comes a point where it’s actually beneficial and probably the only healing move left, to admit that the problem might be in one’s self, not others (or the tools used, as in this case).

  But that does not mean that the metaphorical finger is inherently fragile or unavoidably always broken. Just realizing this, as much as our psyche fights against it both to avoid admitting fault or conceding that there’s a lot of work to do, can start the processes to get the finger working and healthy.

  I also don’t like how often this line of thought is turned around and used as a weapon, when it can actually be very hopeful and healing after the initial struggles trying to accept it (and failing to do so, defensively fighting against it with all your cells for a good while).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I got into the wrong career lol⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  For someone who doesn’t have anything to discuss, you do have an awful lot to say and keep repeating. Suit yourself.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I got into the wrong career lol⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Being successful anywhere requires hard work. You can be born into money, but you’ll have to work a lot to be a success yourself, not just a nobody with a lot of money coming from those that were successful. You can be born attractive (and that’s subjective anyway, people have a lot of different tastes and kinks) and without hard work, it’ll not be worth anything.

  No idea why you are being so patronizing and dismissive. Either you are bitter and lashing out, or you need a little bit more perspective and general empathy, as in capability to see the world not only from your personal point of view, and the capability to process that, too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I got into the wrong career lol⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, had I the potential to do the same, I’d grab the chance in a heartbeat. It’s both much more lucrative as well as comfortable, allowing working from home or in midst of traveling, or whatever. The flexibility alone would be enough to convince me. Assuming they have the audience already and not just jumping in cold.

  They’ll probably make at least tenfold the money I’ll be making in my entire lifetime, in a couple of years. Certainly more than academics would.

  People here worried about the long term? As if getting a phd and working in academics would ever bring them the money they’ll likely make in a couple of years. If anything, this is the move to make if one is concerned about the long term, especially financially. They’ll be able to retire, probably very early, unlike your average academic.

  Anyone making this very choice, I.e being smart enough for a phd but choosing something else, will have thought about the future and all that comes with it. With sensible investing and whatever, they’ll probably be sailing towards a very comfortable life.

  Why would anyone think choosing the phd would be the more long-term sensible choice? Academics is the same as being a nurse or a teacher: it’s a passion choice. Not a smart choice. Not everything has to be smart either. But it’s certainly going to be so much more future-proof in general.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Guy never bought a game on the Epic Store... Owns 200+⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Initially I, too, claimed those, but ultimately I never ended up playing them and often I’d just end up buying them from steam instead. It’s funny how I’m willing to pay for something I can have for free, if it’s convenient and easy. So I didn’t claim them for very long, stopped a long time ago, and still just ignore it if a game I thirst for is available for free.

  But that’s also a pretty dark prospect: Because I have my entire extensive library on steam, I’m kind of stuck with them. And while they are not abusing that presently, I’m fairly confident they will someday. And I, along with most everyone playing on pc, will be shit out of luck then.

  It’s hard to diversify at this point, when I’m too far gone, and knowing changing or adding services will increase the complexity of using it all and keeping mental track of all the games and where they are.

  Ugh.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Unless they’re the sole recipient of a will (doesn’t seem very common), at least here those are almost always liquified and proceeds split according to the will. Doesn’t amount to much usually, though it might be different in countries that have very large and expensive cities.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, that really depends on the society. I don’t live in one that makes such assumptions. It feels a little bit entitled to assume something like that, but that could also just be cultural differences between developed and non-developed countries. The former have social security and safety nets, rendering an inheritance less important and much less prominent. Feels like the only inheritance worth even thinking about is if you have millions in excess of what you need for living, and in developed countries that is very much less prominent than in developing countries

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Exactly my thoughts too. Life’s meant to be lived. Hoarding assets to save for an uncertain future is counterproductive even in terms of economy at large, if one’s inclined to think that way.

  It creates expectations that don’t seem natural, and then leads to disappointments and bitterness when life does not go as planned, as it never will.

  But then again, I get wanting to make things better for your children. But at least for me, it seems less prone to pure chance and circumstance if the efforts went into building a more sustainable, inclusive and supportive country to live in. And enjoy the ride while it lasts, since your pain and suffering will reflect on your children, want it or not. If things are tight and you get stressed from that, it’s always going to affect everyone around you, often negatively. If, instead, you could relieve that stress by not saving more than you need as a buffer here and now, or for something like a house (I.e not for some abstract future that might never come, for your children who might not live that far, but are here now, with you), that’s probably going to be much better for everyone. Smiles generate smiles and it’s not a zero-sum game. Life well lived is one with smiles, not one with fragile, ephemeral value of some sort stored away with sweat and blood.

  But of course if there’s already too much to use realistically, why not do that then. But that’s an entirely different discussion altogether, if we ever should have something like that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I never really considered an inheritance an option. Seems so off-worldly to me, even though I am by no means from a poor family, just lower middle class.

  I think the entire concept of inheritance is something more prominent in developing countries like US or India, where there isn’t a well-established safety nets already in place by the government itself.

  Of course we have those too, I know a few who got something, but most of it gets taxed away upon receiving or vanishes covering the deceased’s debts, so I’ve never heard anyone I know get anything other than maybe a weekend vacation in the city next over or maybe a small chunk of student debt away.

  Then again I’m not very well-off, and I do know there are the upper class families that have a long standing generational wealth passing over to the new generations. I guess it really depends on the circles one’s in.

  But I still think it’s not as common here, at least I’ve never considered it to be normal, and I’ve known well people from upper middle class too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you want the murderer of the UnitHealthcare CEO prosecuted?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, this is how I feel too. I commend their courage and honestly think this was for the greater good, but I’d also have them prosecuted with some amount of clemency, because otherwise, where do we draw the line? Who’s ok to kill, how do we reason about this? I don’t think it’s ever ok to kill, but I also believe sometimes drastic action such as a kill can lead to good outcomes. This is how we fight against fascism and tyranny too. Nobody expects anyone to remain forever peaceful under tyranny. Of course people fight, and it’s noble to do so. But… context matters. We are not that far yet, so it seems more important to safeguard the general safety of everyday life and have some amount of de facto rule of law that ensures that.

  I think this also encourages better, more detailed preparation and planning for those that sacrifice their own safety, health and freedom to help that of others. If they never get caught, we might never need an actual answer to this hard question.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I live in the green part⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Happy to elaborate, if I was unclear somewhere

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I live in the green part⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My BMI is well on the obesity side, though I’m reasonably fit and more importantly, have built some muscle. I think last we checked it was around 35 or so, yet I do frequent 25km day off-road marches with ~25kg backpack just keep my body comfortable with the much less frequent, though much more enjoyable, longer hikes I try to fit in each year. Last I ran the (admittedly not all that useful) Cooper’s test, I got just past the 3km threshold.

  All this, while technically being… *checks notes*… obese.

  I’m 92kg and around 170cm, which I think gets close to 200lb and 5’11(?) in the land of the free units. Never felt better about my body and shape, although back in the day when I was doing my NCO school, I was in a much better shape. But about the same weight. Now I have some fluff on my dad belly. But I really find it sad that so many are scared of weight, when it’s the composition that matters.

  I think speech like this is scaring people off of gaining a healthy amount of muscle, especially if they are longer in height than average. I’m short and I had to work a lot to get this weight and muscle. Someone tall wouldn’t have to work as much, and would not even be in as good a shape, but feel doubly worse because a lot of people just talk about all this in terms of weight.

  All I’m saying is we should be critical of both using BMI in anything else than statistics where it’s at least helpful, and weight alone, which is even less helpful in any general sense. The kids will be too thin and frail in general, if they are scared of getting a healthy amount of strength, since that easily throws the scales off.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why is my whisky evaporating?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, if only the cheap stuff does this, and there are teens in the household, I would bet that the stuff in its bottle is already plenty cut with water.

  I remember, as a teen, I’d avoid the expensive stuff just because that’d get me into more trouble probably. The cheap stuff? By the time anyone noticed, it was probably 80% water in the bottle 😁

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are LLMs capable of writing *good* code?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This seems like the most sane take.

  A computer can do a lot. But if you give the computer to a regular fish instead of a regular human, that’s just a regular fish next to a computer. Not very useful.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨5 Reasons Why Bill Skarsgard's The Crow Remake Bombed At The Box Office⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, it’s wild to witness the embarrassments of my youth somehow coming back with a bang.

  But it’s all subjective I suppose. I just hope we don’t do 80’s again

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can't play an EA game via geforce now⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Fair enough, it’s certainly worse than the alternative.

  However, when unable to exercise the alternative, it’s nice to have an option to still experience and play games.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can't play an EA game via geforce now⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I get your sentiment, and agree somewhat, but I was able to play it prior as well as later, even if I had to wait 24 hours. So I didn’t pay for nothing, and if you meant gfn, then I was still fully able to use the service for everything else.

  However, I did make efforts to right the situation, which I think is much better than simply complaining and feeling robbed. Those efforts brought fruit, too, and I was back playing in an hour.

  But I still do see your general point and agree in the sense that we really should fight for our rights, and if unable to do so, strive to better things for others, so they need not fight 😌

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can't play an EA game via geforce now⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I did contact NVIDIA customer support too, but haven’t heard back since the ticket was not real-time chat. EA customer support was a chat though, and resolved the problem for me 😌

  I’ll see what NVIDIA responds back. I think this might have some work for steam too, since I play this EA game via steam, but EA is not officially playable via GFN, but steam is. So I think there’s a lot of complications there to shift through.

  I did try to contact steam too, but they have no contact info for this kind of problem, rather forwarded to EA.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can't play an EA game via geforce now⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Update: It seems requesting a password change from support side toggles the flag and lets you start the game again.

  Unsure if this works multiple times, but at least for me, it worked, and this was my first time this happened.

  Worth a shot people! If you ever find yourself on a similar situation

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can't play an EA game via geforce now⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks, though it’s not a huge deal. Just happen to have my vacation days now, and it would have been great time to play. I guess I have to figure something else out for today 🙈

  Unfortunately I don’t think you can play this game without the EA launcher and DRM, so if one wants this experience, one has to also experience the entirety of EA with all of its malices and quirks…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can't play an EA game via geforce now⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, the problem is disk space. I have a mobile dev workstation, which means I don’t need huge amounts of disk space, so I cheaped on that aspect when buying it. Can’t fit the entire Legendary Edition on this thing, even if it could play it.

  Did contact support, they can’t help with this. Hopefully it gets forwarded upwards enough so that at some point this is fixed.