FearMeAndDecay
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- Comment on How come when paying cash for gas, it is not like a coke machine where you can insert your money? And when it hits that limit it clicks off? 1 week ago:
Everytime I’m at the bank and see the little pneumatic tubes I’m saddened by the fact that they are not used everywhere
- Comment on 1 week ago:
Yeah you see that kinda thing in other professions too. It’s why there are so many predators in the Catholic Church. It gives people power and access to kids/vulnerable people. Combine that with the catholic church’s aversion to dealing with these issues publicly and you have a honeypot for predators
- Comment on More People Are Pre-ordering The $100 Edition Of GTA 6 1 week ago:
I’m pretty sure there was a study done that found that people with lower incomes tend to spend their extra money on experiences and such (tattoos, games, etc.) rather than save and invest. And they do that bc they figure they aren’t gonna have the money for long so might as well do something enjoyable with the money when they do have some extra. Whereas people who have higher incomes often have some extra money, so they can make plans and invest with the expectation that they will have more extra money later
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
For a lot of people with eating disorders any comment about their appearance and attractiveness will only fuel the eating disorder. If they get lots of compliments when they’re dangerously skinny then they’ll obviously conclude “this is good I need to be skinny/skinnier.” However, when people say things like you did like “they were cuter before” it almost always spirals the person into trying to “fix” their appearance even more
You have to remember that unfortunately people with eating disorders do not see themselves objectively and they often are not thinking straight bc their body is struggling to survive. So even if you’re trying to say something positive, that’s not necessarily going to be the effect it has on the person. This is why it’s important to generally center the discussion around having a healthy lifestyle rather than appearance (actually being healthy, not when people use the word “healthy” to disparage anyone bigger than a size 2)
Also additional note that isn’t necessarily to do with this conversation, but people with eating disorders will often have their weight fluctuate drastically. Bc their eating habits are so inconsistent, their bodies get used to holding onto as much as they can, so it’s common for people with eating disorders to rapidly gain weight and then rapidly lose it, in a cycle. And of course, when they lose the weight people will compliment them usually, thus fueling the eating disorder. This is why it’s generally best to never comment on someone’s weight unless you know them really well and they’ve specifically been talking about losing weight in a healthy way. (And even then the focus should be on the benefits of the change like “you seems so much more energetic now/you look more comfortable in yourself” rather than their weight directly)
I don’t think you meant anything bad by your comment. I just think you don’t know much about eating disorders so this is a good learning opportunity
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
I mean that’s been obvious since the start. Since around when she was on nickelodeon she was on the eating disorder side of Tumblr. Having been famous for long unfortunately is only going to make that worse since beauty standards are so extremely fucked, especially for those in the public eye
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Seconding everyone else saying you should get a second opinion. Something is clearly wrong and if your doctor isn’t looking closer to figure out what the issue is or trying to find solutions then you absolutely deserve a second opinion from a doctor who cares
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
Thanks for the advice! I wasn’t gonna trade in my phone anyways bc I only get like $50 for it, so I was thinking I’d keep it to make the transition easier, like you said. I’ll probably shoot you some questions once I get the phone and get graphene on it. Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
I would wait if I could but my phone is in “so old it’s no longer working for basic functionality” at this point. So I need to get something for now, even if I end up reselling/trading in in a year or two. This gives me good stuff to think on tho! Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
Good point! Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
I figured it’d be that kind of situation, but I don’t know much about phone security so I wasn’t sure if there were added vulnerabilities. Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
Thank you!
- Comment on Is Buying a Google Pixel with GrapheneOS Pre-Installed Dangerous? 4 weeks ago:
Thank you!
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- Comment on What happens when you just refuse to pay and go ... ? 5 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t be surprised if his aides write these tweets based on rants he goes on to them and anyone who will listen. Regardless of who’s doing the actual typing though, I 100% believe that he has said/thinks all the dumb shit he tweets
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 5 weeks ago:
Why do you want to tell her after all this time? Do you still talk/hang out? What kind of response do you expect or want from her if you do tell her?
- Comment on If you need a portable reader, is there any reason to choose an e-reader over your phone? 5 weeks ago:
I can’t upvote this enough. You nailed it all
- Comment on When the first Black Hole was discovered in 1971 what did the scientist actually think it was at first? How come now it seems that it destroys everything it ingests? Why is it not a funnel of sorts? 5 weeks ago:
I’ll be honest, that’s one of the things I didn’t fully understand myself from the class. I tried to do a bit of reading to refresh my memory and I realized I was thinking of accretion disks, not gamma ray bursts. Black holes can emit gamma ray bursts apparently but I think they only emit it when they eat a star and the star explodes as it’s being pulled apart. So the burst we see is a part that’s still able to escape. I think
Accretion disks though are another way we can detect blacks holes. Because of their massive gravity, black holes draw in a lot of matter that orbits it until it eventually passes the event horizon and can no longer be detected. Before that though, all the matter, whether it be gasses or parts of stars or planets that have been torn apart, rubs together and heats up, emitting light that we can detect until it eventually is pulled past the event horizon
Like I said before, there’s still a lot we don’t know about black holes because they’re hard to find, let alone study. Honestly, the more I learned in that astronomy class, the more I realized just how much we don’t fully understand about the universe yet. We have so much left to learn and discover that it’s kind of exciting to think about what will be discovered next in our lifetime!
- Comment on When the first Black Hole was discovered in 1971 what did the scientist actually think it was at first? How come now it seems that it destroys everything it ingests? Why is it not a funnel of sorts? 5 weeks ago:
Obligatory, I’m not a scientist but I took an astronomy class in college and we talked about black holes a bit: The simple answer for why a black hole will tear everything apart is because the acceleration due to gravity will destroy it
The fastest speed you can go is the speed of light in a vacuum. That’s the upper limit (at least as we currently understand physics I think). So theres a limit to how fast you can go even in space. Black holes are really big and therefore have a really strong gravitational pull. It’s so strong that if something gets close enough, eventually the gravity will be strong enough that even if you’re going the speed of light, you won’t be moving fast enough to escape it. So you wouldn’t be in the black hole yet, but you wouldn’t be able to escape its gravity anymore. That area is what’s called the event horizon. The closer you get to the black hole, the stronger the pull of gravity becomes and the faster you accelerate towards it. Eventually it gets to the point that the part of you that’s closer to the black hole is accelerating so fast that it’ll be ripped from the rest of you that’s slightly further away and therefore being pulled slightly slower
Because not even light can escape the event horizon, black holes don’t look like anything except… black holes or dark spots in space, which makes them hard to detect bc darkness isn’t uncommon in space. So we actually detect them by looking for the distortion of light that passes near the event horizon and by the bursts of gamma rays that are released when a black hole feeds on matter. But afaik black holes aren’t technically “fact” yet. They’re still theories because while we have good evidence for them existing, we haven’t confirmed it bc obviously we can’t see them and can’t visit them bc they’re really far away. They’re just a really well agreed upon theory. But I think there are some different theories of the specifics of how black holes work, since we don’t actually know a ton about them
As I said at the start, I’m not a scientist, this is just based off an astronomy class from college so I may well be wrong. If I am please please correct me
- Comment on Microsoft loses Brazilian court case after telling hacked Xbox user to re-purchase games 5 weeks ago:
Hopefully the $400 (R$2000) is an overestimation if they go that route. But while I don’t doubt that they’d happily pay a bit of money once to keep being scum bags, if this happens repeatedly, with many users’ accounts around the world then they’ll be forced to actually give the accounts back or it’ll add up fast. Hopefully, this was just a one-off of them being assholes (it won’t be but we can dream)
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Oh come on, I’m sure if you’re using it as a front for a drug dealing operation then you can also become a millionaire :)
- Comment on Are doctor's of presidents still bound by HIPPA even if they see a major decline that would massively effect the country? Or can they tell the truth? And can they lie if under pressure from one? 2 months ago:
Have you missed the news about all of the protests happening across the country? Have you missed the news about do-nothing democrats getting primaried (or on track to get primaried in the next few months) across the country? There are definitely a lot of Americans that are just waiting for someone to save them, but theres also a lot who are actively getting involved. It doesn’t feel like it bc things are shit, but this is a historic time for grassroots movements. There’s a lot of motion all over the country. Don’t lose hope
- Comment on If online services (such as Netflix) only ever raise their prices, does that mean they offer less and less value for money as time passes? 2 months ago:
Man I remember when Netflix was just borrowing dvds. They’d send them to our house, we’d get a pizza, watch the movie, and then send it back. A perfect little movie night for kid me. And then when they first got into streaming it was cool. We used to watch Netflix on our Wii. Now there’s so much content on Netflix and streaming sites but when we actually sit down for movie night it’s a pain to find anything to watch bc most of it is shit. Or there’s a movie we want to watch but can’t bc it’s on a platform we don’t have bc it’s expensive as hell to have all the streaming services
- Comment on Does anybody actually work from 09:00 to 17:00 2 months ago:
I work a 9-5 office job in the USA but it’s seasonal and there are people who work different hours so that the office can stay open til 7
- Comment on Valve Uploads Steam Controller Unboxing Video, Launch Imminent 3 months ago:
Meanwhile I’m looking at it and it seems wayyyy too big for my tiny hands. It looks wider than the original steam controller and that is already a bit of a stretch for me
- Comment on I am against rape or rapists or any such type of action or person. But my mom who has a daughter. Keeps questioning why these women wait so long before coming out with it? 4 months ago:
Another coping mechanism is to minimize it. “It wasn’t actually rape” or “at least they didn’t beat me/choke me” etc. They tell themself it wasn’t actually a big deal bc actually admitting to themselves that what they went through was deeply traumatic can be absolutely crushing and can sometimes push them over the edge. As much as we want sa survivors to report the perpetrators so they can (unfortunately hopefully) be arrested, their focus is and should be their own health and well-being. Tho means that sometimes people are only able to speak up a long time after
- Comment on Is there a chance America one day will elect a Progressive? Or will we keep going the elder dipshit route? 4 months ago:
There’s a lot of doomerism happening in these comments, so I’m just gonna add in that yes, I do think there’s a chance. A small chance, but a chance nonetheless
Right now shit sucks real bad. People know this. That’s why Trump won the first time. He ran as an anti-establishment everything candidate and people—not just his bigoted cultists—ate it up. But things didn’t get better. So then people voted for Biden bc he was the opposition to Trump who had become the establishment as the sitting president. And Biden won and shit still sucked. So then they went back to Trump bc there was no viable republican or democrat candidate outside of Trump and Biden/Harris. (Yes Bernie should have been the answer but America is currently a two party system and he was robbed of a primary election.)
So now that everything sucks and is getting worse and we’ve tried republicans and democrats and none of it is working and most candidates refuse to talk about real issues like affordability, people are starting to say “fine. I’ll find a different candidate then.”
And that’s how we got Zohran Mamdani, an openly democratic socialist as mayor of New York City. All across the country progressive candidates are using this momentum to primary out establishment dems. Not all are winning, but many of the races are close, like Kat Abughazaleh’s race. Even that helps because it shows dems that if they want to keep their seat as the controlled opposition so they can keep getting their bribes, then they have to change their messaging and priorities. People aren’t satisfied with a campaign to return to pre-Trump business as usual. People want a candidate that works for them
So check who’s on the ballot of your dem primaries (which are happening rn and through the summer depending on where you live) and see if there are any progressive candidates and do what you can to support them. Donate, volunteer, spread the word, and most importantly, show up and vote in the primary and the elections in November. Even local candidates like city council members and judges can have a lot of power if they have enough numbers and the support of the people
I know a lot of people on lemmy say that America is beyond repair and that the only answer at this point is a violent revolution but not only is this not realistic, it’s not helpful. A violent revolution would be devastating and the amount of lives lost would be horrifying. Theres also the fact that most violent revolutions result in a military authority taking power rather than a true democratic rebuilding. It’s much easier to fantasize about a violent revolution than it is to do the slow, tedious work of creating real change from the ground up
There’s no need to jump to the worst case scenario when we have a prime opportunity to make real change and build grassroots movements. Like I said, this is our chance to capitalize on people’s anger and dissatisfaction with the system to build class consciousness and grassroots movements. Do what you can, even if it doesn’t seem like a lot, and stay hopeful. We’ll get through this together by supporting each other
- Comment on Why did Trisha Paytas make a video calling out Keemstar when her own husband is a rapist, and she herself has defended actual predators? 4 months ago:
I’m gonna be honest, I took a look at peertube and just couldn’t find anything I was really interested in. Like I was just looking for some good gaming content and I couldn’t find anything to my taste (or honestly much at all). Maybe this is a case of user error, but I just don’t think peertube currently has the content to encourage viewers to switch
- Comment on We all know crack was introduced primarily to black neighbor hoods. Why them? Why not people in the Appalachians? Or in Asian neighbor hoods all over the west coast? 4 months ago:
I’ve never read that before. Thanks for sharing it!