FearMeAndDecay

@FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I am against rape or rapists or any such type of action or person. But my mom who has a daughter. Keeps questioning why these women wait so long before coming out with it?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Another coping mechanism is to minimize it. “It wasn’t actually rape” or “at least they didn’t beat me/choke me” etc. They tell themself it wasn’t actually a big deal bc actually admitting to themselves that what they went through was deeply traumatic can be absolutely crushing and can sometimes push them over the edge. As much as we want sa survivors to report the perpetrators so they can (unfortunately hopefully) be arrested, their focus is and should be their own health and well-being. Tho means that sometimes people are only able to speak up a long time after

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a chance America one day will elect a Progressive? Or will we keep going the elder dipshit route?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s a lot of doomerism happening in these comments, so I’m just gonna add in that yes, I do think there’s a chance. A small chance, but a chance nonetheless

  Right now shit sucks real bad. People know this. That’s why Trump won the first time. He ran as an anti-establishment everything candidate and people—not just his bigoted cultists—ate it up. But things didn’t get better. So then people voted for Biden bc he was the opposition to Trump who had become the establishment as the sitting president. And Biden won and shit still sucked. So then they went back to Trump bc there was no viable republican or democrat candidate outside of Trump and Biden/Harris. (Yes Bernie should have been the answer but America is currently a two party system and he was robbed of a primary election.)

  So now that everything sucks and is getting worse and we’ve tried republicans and democrats and none of it is working and most candidates refuse to talk about real issues like affordability, people are starting to say “fine. I’ll find a different candidate then.”

  And that’s how we got Zohran Mamdani, an openly democratic socialist as mayor of New York City. All across the country progressive candidates are using this momentum to primary out establishment dems. Not all are winning, but many of the races are close, like Kat Abughazaleh’s race. Even that helps because it shows dems that if they want to keep their seat as the controlled opposition so they can keep getting their bribes, then they have to change their messaging and priorities. People aren’t satisfied with a campaign to return to pre-Trump business as usual. People want a candidate that works for them

  So check who’s on the ballot of your dem primaries (which are happening rn and through the summer depending on where you live) and see if there are any progressive candidates and do what you can to support them. Donate, volunteer, spread the word, and most importantly, show up and vote in the primary and the elections in November. Even local candidates like city council members and judges can have a lot of power if they have enough numbers and the support of the people

  I know a lot of people on lemmy say that America is beyond repair and that the only answer at this point is a violent revolution but not only is this not realistic, it’s not helpful. A violent revolution would be devastating and the amount of lives lost would be horrifying. Theres also the fact that most violent revolutions result in a military authority taking power rather than a true democratic rebuilding. It’s much easier to fantasize about a violent revolution than it is to do the slow, tedious work of creating real change from the ground up

  There’s no need to jump to the worst case scenario when we have a prime opportunity to make real change and build grassroots movements. Like I said, this is our chance to capitalize on people’s anger and dissatisfaction with the system to build class consciousness and grassroots movements. Do what you can, even if it doesn’t seem like a lot, and stay hopeful. We’ll get through this together by supporting each other

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why did Trisha Paytas make a video calling out Keemstar when her own husband is a rapist, and she herself has defended actual predators?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m gonna be honest, I took a look at peertube and just couldn’t find anything I was really interested in. Like I was just looking for some good gaming content and I couldn’t find anything to my taste (or honestly much at all). Maybe this is a case of user error, but I just don’t think peertube currently has the content to encourage viewers to switch

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We all know crack was introduced primarily to black neighbor hoods. Why them? Why not people in the Appalachians? Or in Asian neighbor hoods all over the west coast?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve never read that before. Thanks for sharing it!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We all know crack was introduced primarily to black neighbor hoods. Why them? Why not people in the Appalachians? Or in Asian neighbor hoods all over the west coast?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  If you can convince the lowest white man he’s better than the best colored man, he won’t notice you’re picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he’ll empty his pockets for you. -Lyndon B. Johnson

  Basically, people were already really racist against black people, so it’s easier to just continue that narrative. Build upon all the lies that were used to try and justify enslaving black people to make poor people, including other black people who believe the lies, blame black people for all their problems. That way we fight amongst ourselves instead of looking at and justly blaming the people with power and money

  Before Trump’s rise it had become not-okay to be openly racist in most of the country so they had to pivot to openly attacking a different group: queer people, specifically trans people. (They were still very racist, just less open about it.) Blaming a minority or marginalized group is a classic conservative move to stop people from developing class consciousness and realizing that a poor cis straight white man has infinitely more in common with a poor queer trans black woman than a rich (like billionaire rich) cis straight white man

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨can i still consider myself to be a valid asexual?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I didn’t say they’re attracted to most people they meet, I said that they potentially could feel sexual attraction. As in, it’s not unusual for them to feel sexual attraction towards a complete stranger

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨can i still consider myself to be a valid asexual?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The difference is that many people feel sexual attraction towards potentially anyone whereas demisexuals only potentially feel sexual attraction to people they’ve already formed a close bond with. It’s not about actually having sex with people, it’s about the sexual attraction or lack thereof

  I’m ace and I was always confused about why people panic around hot people. I get panicking around someone new, but their hotness never plays into it. It was only until I learned about asexuality and learned that most people have a physical reaction to people they find physically/sexually attractive (whether that be increased heart rate, arousal, etc.) I’ve simply never experienced that. Demisexuals are similar in that they don’t deal with that for strangers but if they have a strong emotional connection with someone then they may start to feel sexual attraction

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the point of abbreviations for short words when they do not reduce times significantly when you type?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I often use tho and other abbreviations as a way to show tone and personality in text. So like, if I’m being very casual and lighthearted I’m more likely to use tho, but if it’s a more serious conversation or I’m typing out proper thoughts then it’ll probably be though. For me it’s similar to how if you put a period at the end of your text then it’s kinda passive aggressive, but using periods just in the rest of the text as normal punctuation is fine

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does the national Do Not Call Registry actually work? (USA)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  So that’s what that is. I haven’t heard of the call screening thing til now but lately half the time I call clients I get this weird answering machine telling me to say my name and what I want and I never know what to say so I just launch into my usual voicemail spiel until it cuts me off and the client answers

  Gotta say, I think I prefer just leaving a voicemail for clients

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The best way to answer this is to see a psychologist. They can actually diagnose you. Just bc you’re self aware doesn’t mean you can’t be one or even that you’re less likely to be a narcissist. There are some that are self aware and use that knowledge to their advantage. If you truly think you might be a narcissist then seeing a psychologist is the best thing to do. Your doctor might also be able to make a recommendation

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks I’ll check it out!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That makes sense. I like privacy but I don’t mind having an account if it means I have a genuinely better experience on the internet. Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for the response! I use nebula and have been getting into the fediverse little by little since I discovered lemmy. I even got Linux on a laptop a few months ago. Every time I switch to a more open source or consumer focused service I just find it so much better, which has led me here to trying out new browsers and search engines

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you! SearXNG is like a self hosted thing right? I’ve only vaguely heard about it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Quite a few people have suggested that so I think I’ll end up doing the free trial then a month on the lowest tier and see how things go. Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I did see something about that but I thought I misunderstood bc it sounded too good to be true! Thank you for the reply!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I looked into the Orion browser a bit but it looked like it had a lot of ai stuff. Currently I use Firefox on mobile but I’m open to changing it. Thank you for the response!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Short and sweet lol. Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s awesome! Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Honestly this is the best way to advertise it to me. Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for the response! I think the first time I heard of Kagi was actually about their LinkedIn translations lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I have a browser add on that lets me block sites but being able to say “I want to see more of this” instead of just “never show me this again” sounds very nice. Thank you for the response!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is really helpful! Thank you! I didn’t realize people could report slop sites. That’s a huge plus in my book

  Do you know, if I type in a website in the search bar and go directly there, does that count as a search bc it uses the search bar, or does it only count if you actually load a page of results? Like if I go directly to YouTube.com or I just search YouTube and then click on the result, are those both considered a search, or just the latter? I would assume only the latter, but I’m not certain. If they both are considered a search then I’d definitely be concerned about having enough searches

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s good to know about how the search engine actually works! Having the ai stuff be opt-in instead of opt-out is also a huge plus. Thank you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Haha yeah the step up from google to ddg was very noticeable. But then I saw people on here talking about Kagi and that got me wondering if things can be even better

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Kagi Worth It?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ew yeah that tweet does not encourage me to give them money… this gives me some good stuff to think about and I’ll check out qwant too. Thank you!