FearMeAndDecay

@FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do movie theaters work? Which seats in theaters are the best? (never done this before) Also is the IMAX thing actually any different?⁩ ⁨⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Important question: what movie are you gonna go see?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you⁩ ⁨⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Flip the perspective. For example, you felt like the issues with your partner could be worked on and they didn’t work on them, they just left. So rather than wondering if you deserve a connection with them, consider if they deserve a connection with you. You’re putting work into the relationship, trying to figure things out, and they didn’t put in that effort. If they aren’t willing to put in the effort for you, then they don’t deserve a relationship with you. Surround yourself with people who value and work for a relationship with you. I don’t mean this in like a “test people to see how much they’ll put up with” way, but in a “find people who match the effort and care that you put into the relationship”

  If you approach a relationship from the perspective of not being good enough and having to always earn their love and care then you’re always going to give too much and try to take something they can’t give you (self love)

  Also, try to remember that you’re going through a rough time right now. The pain of the relationship ending is still raw, so of course everything else is going to feel more shit too. Keep moving forward, working on and caring for yourself. It will get better, so don’t give up

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New kink unlocked⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s fucking crazy. If you remember the name of the book let me know so I can find a copy to read lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New kink unlocked⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  sorry wtf did I just read?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people hate AI so much?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The key issue here is how it’s being used and regulation. Ai has caused a lot of harm bc it is unregulated. Like, people have committed suicide or killed others bc of conversations with chatbots. And yes, in many of these cases there are pre-existing mental health concerns, but it’s still causing someone who is unhealthy but non violent to become violent. That’s really bad.

  Currently, ai not being used in positive ways, when we’re looking at the broader use of ai. Sure, some people or small organizations may use ai for specific uses which it’s good for, but that’s not how it is for most ai use. A lot of ai is taking people’s jobs/promising employers that they will be able to fire half their workforce. Even in the positive example you gave of getting a character portrait, sure you could use an ai, but there are a lot of artists that are losing commissions because it’s cheaper for people to just use ai. So the artists aren’t technically losing their job; their work is just being devalued, which is very unfortunate bc—as people have said—ai generated images don’t have intention and care put into it. Ai literally can’t do that. True art, no matter the skill level it’s made at, is made to evoke emotions, to communicate something to the viewer/reader/audience. Ai can’t create true art bc it cannot think or feel; it cannot be deliberate

  I hate ai bc currently ai is a horrible thing bc of how it’s being used the majority of the time. I think after all the ai hype has died down and companies look at how these ai tools can actually be used effectively then it will be more tolerable. But right now it’s just an investment bubble and an unregulated technology that has caused severe harm

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people hate AI so much?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The study you linked doesn’t just show a positive impact on education. That’s only half the study. The other half is about the negative impacts. That study is giving a full picture of ai use in the classroom, about where it helps and where it hurts. They created 6 categories for how ai is getting used in the classroom and explained the positive and negatives found in those studies for each category. Some categories see more benefits or more harm than others

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is your take on organ donation?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Organ donation just makes sense. If my organs can help someone else after I’m done with them then why not? What doesn’t make sense is that in states/places where abortion isn’t legal, corpses have more bodily autonomy than pregnant women

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨With regards to cutlery, do you prefer a spoon or a fork for eating cake?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  fork

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What the fuck is going on with Iran and what will happen next?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  9/11 didn’t just make people support war in the Middle East, it also made them support a whole bunch of surveillance within the USA under the guise of “preventing another 9/11 by catching the terrorist activity before they hurt anyone.” Of course, they’ve used this increased surveillance against dissidents far more than to stop terrorists. If there was a “terrorist attack” on USA soil again, then the GOP and congress would absolutely jump on the opportunity to enact broad voter id laws, facial recognition software, and age/id verification online laws while claiming its to protect “terrorist immigrants from voting in elections and tracking terrorists irl and online.” They would probably also use it to justify even more intense ICE operations and harassment, painting anyone who goes against the Trump admin and his gestapo force as terrorists or terrorist sympathizers. They’re already trying to do all of this, they just lack broad public support, but a false flag operation might be how they try to gain that support

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What the fuck is going on with Iran and what will happen next?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Good breakdown, but don’t forget that part of why this has bipartisan support in congress is because Benjamin Netanyahu, the pm of Israel, and much of the state of Israel really want to attack Iran and most USA congress members get funding from Israel. So they’ll support the war against Iran bc their AIPAC donors tell them to. The state of Israel can only warmonger bc the USA stands behind them and fights their battles, and the USA stands behind Israel and fights their battles bc they get a bunch of bribes donations from AIPAC. It also gives the USA a convenient way to paint brown people in the Middle East as “evil barbarians” when they justly defend themselves from Israel (see Palestine and Iran rn)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨18-26 year olds, How do you plan to dodge the draft?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I definitely think this experiment has issues, but I think the reasons you mentioned make it more applicable to the military though not other scenarios. Bc soldiers are meant to obey orders above all else. Their commanders aren’t random people, they’re meant to be the authorities who know what’s a war crime and what’s not. Now, obviously that’s not true, or if they do know they don’t necessarily give a shit, but this all sets up a permission structure that it’s “okay” to follow orders even if it seems kinda wrong

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to I prove to someone that the U.S. moon landing wasn't staged?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is why my go-to is to tell them that the moon landing was faked, but NASA hired Steven Spielberg to direct it and he demanded that they shoot on location on the moon

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Without hierarchies/authority figures, the bootlickers would be totally lost. 🤠⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I can’t find it now, but I once read an article that said that bc patriarchy devalues women and our opinions and centers men, it results in straight (and non straight men I suppose) centering other men in their lives. Since only men’s opinions matter, men do everything for the approval of other men, usually the “manliest” man. For example, “trophy wives” are usually more about showing off to other men rather than bc the husband actually wants to be married to or is even super attracted to her. Or some men will pretend to not be attracted to a woman if their male friends have deemed her unattractive. Basically, they have done studies on it and if you search for homosexual desire and patriarchy you can find some (though I can’t find the specific one I’m thinking of)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you ever feel guilty for trying to sign up for government assistance programs?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Glad to hear you’re on the mend! Don’t feel guilty, feel angry they make vital programs so complicated and difficult to apply and get approved for

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why are americans taking health advice from a former heroin addict ?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  As an American: I’m not. Just bc he was appointed doesn’t mean I trust him (nor did I vote for trump). The people that do believe RFJ Jr were fucking crazy conspiracy theorists to begin with

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can we convince Trump voters to NOT vote for Trump (or Vance) in the 2026 midterms and the 2028 election?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This is really helpful and well-explained!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not to get all religous but was not Jesus pissed for people making money in churches? Didn't he flip tables and everything? Then how do churches nowadays explain the collection plate?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This is a very good explanation. To answer the specific question about modern offering plates, those are fine bc it’s not selling anything, it’s a free will offering to support the church. Of course, some churches put a lot more pressure on their congregants and basically force them to give beyond their means by saying shit like “God demands you give x amount” or “buying salvation” and stuff, and that behavior would likely get them whipped by Jesus too. Unfortunately the people who do stuff like that, don’t actually care about Jesus and his teachings

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is capitalism or consumerism at fault?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t think it “goes against the spirit of capitalism” as capitalism prioritizes profits. I’d say it goes against free markets tho bc companies are encouraged to monopolize industries or work together to artificially inflate prices and depress wages. I think capitalism without intense regulation always ends up placing profits over people

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨the living dead⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So if we're just good with careening into fascism 2.0 what does the future look like?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s why you gotta primary out the ones that don’t actually do their job. Like if it’s too late to primary one out then yeah vote for the dem over the overt fascist but that’s a last resort. If you have the time, check and see if any actually good candidates are running in the primaries and see if you can volunteer and help them out with their campaign. Obviously not everyone has the time or ability, but every little bit helps if you can

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yep. Unless I’m being dramatic, then it’s mother

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Steam Summer Sale 2025 - 15 Hidden Indie Gems - PeerTube.wtf⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for your service against laziness o7

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Same! I like being a woman, and I’m pretty comfortable in my body but… if i could change my sex at will that would be so great for dressing up. Like sometimes I think it’d be cool to be a big barbarian man with like a bare chest and body paint. Or I could wear a really sharp suit

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Weekly “What are you playing” Thread || Week of June 1st⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been playing fantasy life i so much since it released. I loved the 3ds game and waited so long for this sequel and it’s living up to most of my expectations so far, which is nice

  I’m also doing a Lae’zel run in Bg3. She jumped up to my favorite so quickly <3

  I recently got one of those gba emulator devices so I’ve been doing a firered nuzlight. I just beat Blaine and I’m on my way to kick Giovanni’s ass >:)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨7 for me⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The only time im not in 18 is when it’s just a little too cold and I’m in 3

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can the Internet be an ethnicity?⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In the US, at least, usually if you’re asked about your ethnicity (say when you’re doing the common app for colleges) it means that you are at least a quarter (I think, maybe it’s an eighth) of whatever the ethnicity is. So for example, my dad was a Hispanic immigrant, which makes me 50% and therefore ethnically Hispanic despite living in the US my whole life. Honestly, I don’t have much in common culturally with Hispanic people who grew up in a Hispanic country, however I have a fair bit in common with other Hispanic kids who grew up in the US, distanced from our parent’s culture. Sure the Wikipedia definition may say that that’s just one way the word ethnicity is used, but if you just go ask people “hey what’s your ethnicity” aside from very likely being confused why you’re asking, they’ll likely answer something like hispanic or Asian or whatever

  I think culture is the better word to use instead of ethnicity in this case. Like others have said though, the internet is such a big place, that it’s not very descriptive to say your culture is internet culture. Even in your original comment, you had to clarify that you’re referring to the western/english side of the internet, and even that can be broken down further. Do you primarily use TikTok or Reddit? Instagram or Facebook? Do you collect memes or read fanfics? Do you play video games or watch craft how-to videos? The internet is vast and obviously you have more in common with the people and content you find on the internet because the whole point of the internet is to be able to find people like you. But there’s a whole bunch of other people out there using the internet that have nothing in common with you, like for example, your neighbors. It’s not wrong for you to say it, it’s just not particularly descriptive without a bunch of extra info

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Adult gamers of Lemmy how do you find time to game without being exhausted of the screen?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sounds like I have a pretty similar office job and I used to have similar problems with the exhaustion. There’s a few things that really helped I think. The first was to be more active at work. Obviously there’s a limit to what you can do, but don’t pass up any opportunity to get up, walk around, and stretch your legs. If you can take a break/lunch outside then do that. If you have some days where you don’t have too much work to do and it kinda feels like you’re just sitting there with no sense of time, or you’re just watching videos to pass the time, try to find something to do instead. Pick up any trash/misplaced things around the office, reorganize files, have a chat with co workers. This all helps to prevent the exhaustion, I’ve found. Then, when I’m out of work, I try to have non-gaming things to do. Like family dinners on fridays. This helps me feel like I do more than just sit behind a desk all day every day, and it makes it feel like more of a treat when I do sit down to game. I don’t know if these will work for you, but they’re worth a shot if you haven’t tried them I guess

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A retro gaming handheld console has been amazing for me and I want to recommend it⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you! This helps a lot bc I was worried I’d have to become a Linux master just to use one of these emulators

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A retro gaming handheld console has been amazing for me and I want to recommend it⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been seriously considering getting the anbernic sp but I know nothing about Linux (interested in Linux, hence being here, but not a tech person so), and very little about emulation honestly. Do you have any recommendations or advice for beginners? I’ve tried reading guides that say they’re for beginners but then they talk about knulli and stuff and I get real confused

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How wil people react if Trump is right about Tariffs?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Right? Like I’d LOVE to be proven wrong and for this to actually help our economy and the middle class. It’s just that I’m realistic and can see that this is much more likely to lead us to a recession instead