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- Comment on [USA] Is "there are ICE agents roaming the streets" a good reason/excuse to avoid going outside? Or is it just a part of reality that you have to learn to accept? 2 days ago:
Your mom is being shitty. I also had a parent who would randomly threaten to cut me off, and it was the last thing I needed to hear when struggling with life-threatening depression for the first time. A decent parent would show love and compassion, or at least not make it worse for you. Understand and remember that she is in the wrong here, not you. Mental health issues are not personal failures, any more than other health issues are.
You’ve posted before about your mom making horrible threats against you. It would be worth asking - how many of her threats has she actually acted on in the past? I don’t know her and I don’t mean to downplay the seriousness of your plight, but my own abusive parent was (is!) all bark and very little bite. The abuse was still harmful, but mostly in an emotional sense. I was never actually cut off or deprived in any significant sense, as my abuser still clung to the idea of loving me and being a faithful parent. Maybe yours is similar, and you don’t actually need to take the fear of being cut off so seriously. Maybe if you could do that, you’d feel better?
Your fear of ICE is legitimate and not pathetic. There really is no limit to their indiscriminate cruelty. But it would be good to assess the risk carefully. For example, statistically, the likelihood of a kid dying in a school shooting is pretty low; you’re far more likely to die of something common like a car accident. So while parents are terrified of a shooting, they still send their kids to school, because the benefits of their child being educated outweigh the risk.
When I was severely depressed, one of the few things that helped a lot was just stepping out of my usual surroundings and watching the world for a bit. It helped me remember that the world is so much bigger than me and the worries that consume me; that there’s enough beauty out there to drown my depression. That there’s always hope, out there in the unknown, though I often can’t see it. It’s a difficult feeling to convey in words, but you’ll know it when you experience it. Stepping out of the house, even for a few minutes, could possibly have game-changing benefits. It definitely saved my life more than once, as silly as that might sound.
Now, the risk. In the case of ICE, the exact risk is unclear as their actions are somewhat random and unpredictable; but there are things you can do to estimate it. You might be able to find out whether ICE agents were spotted in your area (social media, and I think there was even an app for that? Try asking around here). Moreover, there are plenty of people trying to keep vulnerable populations safe from ICE. They know better than anyone else, from firsthand experience, what factors affect the risk; and they’re doing their best to share that information. Try your best to find it. (I wish I was saving that kind of information so I could share it here, but I’ve really not been on top of my game lately.) Then make an informed decision, and hold yourself to it. Whatever you decide, you’ll feel better about your decision knowing that it was one that you made yourself, not one that was forced on you by fear.
- Comment on I love Lemmy. ❤️👽🥰 Do you love Lemmy 👽? 😄☀️ 6 months ago:
🥲👈💞😏💞🕶️😏😣🕶️ 😝
- Comment on DOGE Employee Welcome Package 6 months ago:
A+ bait, totally got me
- Comment on Good vibes 6 months ago:
This is what tonglen feels like when you’re able to really get going
- Comment on Eat it 6 months ago:
Context FROM THE FUTURE :O
- Comment on Cosmic bliss, I drink __ 6 months ago:
I hate you for posting this (please marry me)
- Comment on Dig this trench to protect your landlord's ability to gouge your decendants. 6 months ago:
I think the assumption is that WW3 will involve nukes, and we’
- Comment on This 18th Century French Doctor Has a Solution to Oligarchy… 6 months ago:
While I’m still raining on your parade:
- Comment on This 18th Century French Doctor Has a Solution to Oligarchy… 6 months ago:
Fun fact: the doctor in question was opposed to the death penalty, and proposed the guillotine thinking he could at least make it more humane. He deeply regretted this action and spent the rest of his life campaigning against it. His family was so ashamed that they changed their surname.
- Comment on I present my girlfriend's daughter. 6 months ago:
This is so wholesome
- Comment on rule 7 months ago:
Underrated AF.
- Comment on rule 7 months ago:
You know, I spent a lot of time today obsessing over how bad the world is getting, and wondering what the point of it all is.
This. It’s this. I stick around for the weird motherfuckers who’ll do shit like this, and share it on the internet.
If I must live through yet another apocaplyse, I want to do it with you.
- Comment on [deleted] 7 months ago:
god dammit, yall are making me feel peer pressured into unblocking her
- Comment on Mr. Grey, can I go to the bathroom? 7 months ago:
Someone’s like “yeah I work in retail.” And this person is like “yeah I clip car batteries to my nipples kneeling in broken glass with a hothouse cucumber up my ass.”
I actually laughed out loud at this assessment. Pretty sure this is not how it went, but… bah, take my upvote.
- Comment on sterile rot 8 months ago:
“I am looking directly into your ear canal” fucking got me